Courage
I just wrote this to be a state representative to lead the fight against DOMA.
DOMA pisses me off, and I need to share this somewhere:
Before I married Melissa in September of 2010 I thought our only hurdle would be our federal taxes. I felt so lucky to be in a state where our marriage was going to be recognized and considered legal. I still feel lucky, but understand now that a state recognized marriage is not equal in this country, despite the state recognizing such a union. My wife and I are paying taxes on the additional health insurance since I joined her account as a Dependant. In the less than half a year I have been on her insurance our taxes have increased thousands of dollars, simply because we are the same sex. This is only one of the reasons I think DOMA is shameful. Understand this, though, I do not believe DOMA is terrible simply because it impacts me. DOMA is shameful because it is discrimination that has been written and enforced so meticulously into our nation. This impacts the way that people see marriage-- it can’t simply be about love, because the present system tells us marriage can only be a certain kind of love. That my love happens to be a woman, just as I am a woman, our love is different or wrong, and that’s what DOMA says. I believe that people know how much I love my wife, that more people need to see how beautifully we love, and appreciate that. I believe that it is important that people meet someone like me, that they see how my love is no different than their love. Perhaps my love is exactly the kind of love to admire... a relationship of two people who care about each other and want to have that love recognized. There are an infinite number of reasons I want to help with DOMA repeal--the ones above are just a start. DOMA impacts my family every day, and I need people to know that. I need people to know that when I go file my taxes on Friday I must check off the box that says single, pay all the taxes of a single person, but that I am actually married. Where is the celebration in that?
DOMA pisses me off, and I need to share this somewhere:
Before I married Melissa in September of 2010 I thought our only hurdle would be our federal taxes. I felt so lucky to be in a state where our marriage was going to be recognized and considered legal. I still feel lucky, but understand now that a state recognized marriage is not equal in this country, despite the state recognizing such a union. My wife and I are paying taxes on the additional health insurance since I joined her account as a Dependant. In the less than half a year I have been on her insurance our taxes have increased thousands of dollars, simply because we are the same sex. This is only one of the reasons I think DOMA is shameful. Understand this, though, I do not believe DOMA is terrible simply because it impacts me. DOMA is shameful because it is discrimination that has been written and enforced so meticulously into our nation. This impacts the way that people see marriage-- it can’t simply be about love, because the present system tells us marriage can only be a certain kind of love. That my love happens to be a woman, just as I am a woman, our love is different or wrong, and that’s what DOMA says. I believe that people know how much I love my wife, that more people need to see how beautifully we love, and appreciate that. I believe that it is important that people meet someone like me, that they see how my love is no different than their love. Perhaps my love is exactly the kind of love to admire... a relationship of two people who care about each other and want to have that love recognized. There are an infinite number of reasons I want to help with DOMA repeal--the ones above are just a start. DOMA impacts my family every day, and I need people to know that. I need people to know that when I go file my taxes on Friday I must check off the box that says single, pay all the taxes of a single person, but that I am actually married. Where is the celebration in that?