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I cannot stand over-zealous feminism.
Men and women equal? I believe in it, I vote for it, I argue for it... In case anyone was thinking I didn't.
This was ignited by a comment in someone else's journal from a old friend of mine. Something to the tune of "I want girls to get into video games because they like the games, not the boys." Now, no offense to the poster of the comment, but what is wrong with someone doing something soley because you like the person who does it?
Now its true that it can create some problems when you fake who you are for someone else, which is undoubtably what you(the comment poster) meant. However, I believe that not only is trying someone else's hobby healthy for a relationship, it something that is almost necessary for a successful relationship.
Case in point: Jesse and me. Although we have not been dating long enough to determine it a complete success, I would say I'm happy with the way its all going. And we try out each other's hobbies all the time. Example, I've never been surfing. Ever. I tried it and liked, mostly because we got to spend a weekend with each other. I'm not about to go buy a surfboard. Also, she's been shooting with me. She's still for gun control.
Here's my beef: I hear all the time women saying they should never change themselves for a man, yet men are nearly always expected to change for a woman. If we don't go do stuff they like to do with them, or if we don't listen to them just the right way, we get labeled as assholes or insensitive. But, for a woman to be expected to lift a finger would set an over-zealous, or even just the trigger-happy, feminist over the edge.
Now for a disclaimer: I am in no way saying it is right for men to ignore women and for women to stay in the kitchen. I believe that is wrong. But this idea that because for so long women were expected to revolve around a man that they should never give again is absolutly absurd.
BOTH people need to give EQUALLY. Both people need to change a little here and there. Both need to spend time biting the bullet and getting involved with their significant other's hobby.
It's not fair to say that a woman shouldn't change for a man, or that a man shouldn't change for a woman.
Is it not normal to make sacrifices for the ones you love?
I can't wait until I'm expected to get pregnant, too.
--Chris
(Sara! I am NOT saying you are a over-zealous feminist... your comment was barely even related to this post, it just got my brain snowballing.)
Men and women equal? I believe in it, I vote for it, I argue for it... In case anyone was thinking I didn't.
This was ignited by a comment in someone else's journal from a old friend of mine. Something to the tune of "I want girls to get into video games because they like the games, not the boys." Now, no offense to the poster of the comment, but what is wrong with someone doing something soley because you like the person who does it?
Now its true that it can create some problems when you fake who you are for someone else, which is undoubtably what you(the comment poster) meant. However, I believe that not only is trying someone else's hobby healthy for a relationship, it something that is almost necessary for a successful relationship.
Case in point: Jesse and me. Although we have not been dating long enough to determine it a complete success, I would say I'm happy with the way its all going. And we try out each other's hobbies all the time. Example, I've never been surfing. Ever. I tried it and liked, mostly because we got to spend a weekend with each other. I'm not about to go buy a surfboard. Also, she's been shooting with me. She's still for gun control.
Here's my beef: I hear all the time women saying they should never change themselves for a man, yet men are nearly always expected to change for a woman. If we don't go do stuff they like to do with them, or if we don't listen to them just the right way, we get labeled as assholes or insensitive. But, for a woman to be expected to lift a finger would set an over-zealous, or even just the trigger-happy, feminist over the edge.
Now for a disclaimer: I am in no way saying it is right for men to ignore women and for women to stay in the kitchen. I believe that is wrong. But this idea that because for so long women were expected to revolve around a man that they should never give again is absolutly absurd.
BOTH people need to give EQUALLY. Both people need to change a little here and there. Both need to spend time biting the bullet and getting involved with their significant other's hobby.
It's not fair to say that a woman shouldn't change for a man, or that a man shouldn't change for a woman.
Is it not normal to make sacrifices for the ones you love?
I can't wait until I'm expected to get pregnant, too.
--Chris
(Sara! I am NOT saying you are a over-zealous feminist... your comment was barely even related to this post, it just got my brain snowballing.)