how is this unreasonable? am I unreasonable? I'm okay with that.

[insomniel]

My mom, bless her heart is the kindest phrase I'll use, is trying very much to get me to go out, make friends, go on a date, get a boyfriend, marry, have kids, preferably within the next 5 years, before she dies. I tell her, in every way I know how, I hate going out, I am okay with the friends I already have if need be, I don't like guys enough to

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[binaryprecision]

As for just "normal" socialization, I feel like you probably do get some social interaction through work and the few outings in which you do partake, and it's not as if you were a complete recluse in college either. Having a husband or children does not guarantee you'll always have someone to "take care of you" if something goes wrong. Sometimes people get divorces. Sometimes children abandon you as adults despite your best efforts parenting. Yes, having a second income helps your long term ability to build wealth and having a companion is great, but relationships are also a lot of hard work and it's absurd to say it's impossible to be prosperous/happy without getting married and having children.

She just wants different things for you than you want for yourself. There may come a time when you change your mind and want to make those connections, but that time is not now and your mom should respect your wishes. It's never "too late" to get in the game, except if you end up wanting your own biological children which seems unlikely at this point. After that clock runs out, there's always adoption. You really just have to do what's right for you and what makes you happy. Their disappointment is a reflection on them, not you. I am speaking to myself as much as I am to you because people judge me a lot for not wanting children and not going to church. :-P