Monster-In-Law!!!!!
So, everything has been pretty hectic lately. Jeremy and I have decided to move in with his mother for a little while. We're really struggling here, and are having a hard time catching up, so we've decided to move in with her for a little while, so we can split the bills and get caught up. This is also our chance to get our credit cleaned up, and save up some safety money. That's always been our biggest problem. We never had the chance to get a little ahead, so we have been living paycheck to paycheck, and that just screws you. If a bill arrives, and we don't have the money to pay it, and have to wait on a check, then it's late and adds on late fees, and we just get further and further behind. So, hopefully, this will help. Plus, this will also be our chance to get Jeremy his driver's license (yes, he's never had it). He's got some warrants for tickets for driving without a license that we've never been able to afford to pay off, so now we can do that also. Then, once that is taken care of, he wants to get a CDL license and get a job making deliveries and hopefully make more money. Things are somewhat looking up......somewhat. Here's the story: Jeremy's mother has had her nose up to me from the first moment I walked through the door. Granted, she's like this with most people, but with me it's worse for some reason, and I think I know why. First off, she is a hard-headed woman, and she THINKS she knows EVERYTHING! Far from it, let me tell you. No, can't do that, it would take forever. But, she is really stubborn, extremely nosy and bossy. Now, Jeremy and his mom and brother all grew up in a trailer park. No big deal, right? Exactly! I have never had a problem with it, and still don't! If I was a gold-digger, or cared that much about money, you would think that would have kept me from dating him....right....? But, it never mattered to me! I LOVE Jeremy! But, yes, I did come from a somewhat middle-class family. Here's the thing though. My parents both came from dirt-poor families growing up. My Granny was a single mother of three, one of which had cerebral palsy, and my dad had to drop out of high school at a very young age to get a job and help out, and due to certain circumstances later on, ran away and came to Dallas. He slept on park benches, and starved for a while, but picked himself up. My Dad and Mom both busted their ASSES for everything they had and because of it, my brother and I had a decent life, and didn't have to worry growing up about the kinds of things my parents had to worry about. Now, having said that, we were far from rich or spoiled. Well, at least I wasn't. My parents just new the importance of keeping their credit clean, and not getting in over their heads. My mother-in-law doesn't see it that way. In her eyes, my family had more than they did, so that meant that money was falling out of our asses, and we were snooty rich people, and she needed to be a bitch and put us in our place. And, that's what she has tried to do from day one. We get along somewhat, but she's always making snide remarks about me, and what I "came from". Way to many to even discuss. That, and she insults everything I say and do. And, by everything, I mean EVERYTHING. I feel like she's constantly putting me down, because like I said, for some reason she thinks I'm a snobby rich girl, and I need to be put in my place. I have NEVER given her reason to be like that. Like I said, my family is far from rich, and I have never even had a reason to act like that. Not to mention the fact that I HATE people like that myself! Which is so ironic, if you think about it. I won't get started rambling, but money and material things are unimportant to me, and I literally hate our society for putting so much importance in them, and here I am, being treated like I'm like that. And, it's all because of her, and how she feels about herself, not some way I acted or treated them. Oh well, back to my point. Yes, Jeremy and I are struggling right now, and we don't have the money to do the things we would like to do. We both really want to buy a house of our own one day, and we want our girls to have a really good life. What parents don't? Now, I know we aren't ready to do it right now. That's a given. But it's not completely out of the question. We are not so screwed up that we should just throw our hands in the air and say it's not possible. No one is ever at that point. You can do anything you want to do. Now for some reason (and maybe I'll discuss it another time)Jeremy's family is really hard on him. They put him down, and make him feel worthless, and basically make him believe that he can't do anything, so why even try? I don't know why this is, other than maybe the fact that some people try to hold others back from succeeding in the areas where they think they've failed. Now, they all want the house, and the new cars and all the nice things, but they don't know how to do it the right way. They get the dozens of credit cards and max them out, and buy more than they can handle and just screw it all up, but they can't stop spending! That, and they make snap decisions, and get in way over the head, even when they know they aren't ready, but they do it anyways! They screw up their credit, and are in debt way over their heads, but they can't stop! Jeremy and I know better. I know what needs to be done, and like I said, we're not so bad that it can't be done. We just need the chance. A chance to get caught up, clean up our credit, pay off tickets so he can get a better paying job, save up some money, and then we'll be set....pretty much. :) I mean, that's the basics...but anyways, like I said, they try to make him feel like we can't do it, so they are always trying to talk him in to giving up, and buying a trailer. But he doesn't want that, and I admit I don't either. We want a real home. But for lots of different reasons. One of my biggest reasons is because I'm trying to set up and invest for our future. In all honestly, trailers begin to depreciate in value the second they are done building it. A real home can actually GO UP in value, and you can end up selling it for more that you paid for it. You can't do that with a trailer. I'm thinking about the big picture. You never know what is going to happen in life, or what you will want to do. What if in 20 years we want to retire or move to another state? We could sell our house, and use the money to buy something somewhere else. You can't do that with a trailer. You're just paying for what you are getting, a trailer. And, when it falls apart (and they do, sorry)you have to start all over again. So, anyways we want a house. Once again, back to my monster-in-law. My parents were visiting the other day, and we wanted to go out to dinner. Jeremy was working, and he forgot to take the car seat out before he left, so I had to call his mother to drop one off for us to borrow. I thought I had time, so I jumped in the shower real quick, but apparently I was wrong, because when I got out my parents went downstairs to get the car seat and get it in our car, and they were all standing around talking. Everyone seemed kind of weird, and quiet, and his mother left really quick, and my parents and I went back upstairs. Then, my parents told me that she said I don't want a trailer, I want a house, and if that's what I want then I should have married someone else. First off, FUCK YOU for being so pathetic that you would say some shit like that to MY PARENTS! Second, I don't marry someone for what I can get out of them. And, third, this is what BOTH Jeremy AND I want. All I am doing is trying to get things taken care of, so we can do it the right way, and not screw it up like they did. And, I think that's what pisses them off the most. They keep screwing up, and they can't do it, so they don't want to see us do it. That's why they are trying to talk us out of it, and make us feel like shit, like we can't do it. But, that's not going to happen. Because in this life, you can do anything you want to do, and Jeremy and I are determined to do it.....