My father could be a pretty violent, angry person... and his father was supposedly more violent, and even more angry.
So, if my grandmother left that to find love and kindness, I have no qualms about that, really. Yes, my dad resented not being able to move out with my grandmother and being left behind with my grandfather... but he also resented my grandfather remarrying arguably even more.
I don't think it's fair, exactly, to say my grandmother poisoned everything around her with selfishness. She never had any more kids, and had several rather long relationships, during which she was, for the most part, happy. Her last relationship lasted 20 years, until her partner died, and ended in her late 80s.
I am aware that there certainly are those out there who are casual homewreckers, but I think you are reading too much into this based on your own personal experience. I would much rather have a grandmother who is the kind of woman who would eventually leave an abusive relationship than one who would allow herself to be trapped by fear.
My father could be a pretty violent, angry person... and his father was supposedly more violent, and even more angry.
So, if my grandmother left that to find love and kindness, I have no qualms about that, really. Yes, my dad resented not being able to move out with my grandmother and being left behind with my grandfather... but he also resented my grandfather remarrying arguably even more.
I don't think it's fair, exactly, to say my grandmother poisoned everything around her with selfishness. She never had any more kids, and had several rather long relationships, during which she was, for the most part, happy. Her last relationship lasted 20 years, until her partner died, and ended in her late 80s.
I am aware that there certainly are those out there who are casual homewreckers, but I think you are reading too much into this based on your own personal experience. I would much rather have a grandmother who is the kind of woman who would eventually leave an abusive relationship than one who would allow herself to be trapped by fear.
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