I think I should clarify that in the context of this story, there are specific and, um, not applicable to real life reasons why every baby they try to have dies (Time-traveling is something genetic and uncontrollable, and when she gets pregnant, the fetus/baby time travels out of her womb and dies. Like...every time. Also, the husband is really opposed to continuing trying to conceive when that is the inevitable result, and she totally bulldozes over his feelings on it.)
I am really passionately pro-adoption. Mostly because, yes, there are unwanted children who need home. If I ever have kids (unlikely; but in the instance I ever decided to) I would hands-down adopt.
I absolutely don't think it's wrong to want to have children who biologically come from you. At all. I wouldn't ever hold it against a couple for being really upset and finding it hard to deal with if they found out they couldn't have children together. I think that's totally understandable. But I do vehemently disagree with the idea that making a family through other means is in any way, shape, or form lesser or not worth as much. Family is about love more than genetics. And that's what gets under my skin so much about the attitude presented in the book.
I am really passionately pro-adoption. Mostly because, yes, there are unwanted children who need home. If I ever have kids (unlikely; but in the instance I ever decided to) I would hands-down adopt.
I absolutely don't think it's wrong to want to have children who biologically come from you. At all. I wouldn't ever hold it against a couple for being really upset and finding it hard to deal with if they found out they couldn't have children together. I think that's totally understandable.
But I do vehemently disagree with the idea that making a family through other means is in any way, shape, or form lesser or not worth as much. Family is about love more than genetics. And that's what gets under my skin so much about the attitude presented in the book.
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