"Are you being serve?" ...it's been ages sense I watched that! I should do that one of these day because I like it when I was a kid :) I agree with you on the couples things. Kevin is totally different then me. Whenever I introduced him to a few friends they go "I tought you would be dating some time of goth"...and I go "noooooooooo." Kevin is kevin, a very spiffy air-force boi now that love gaming more than I do :D
Scott's more of a goth than I am, and he's been trying to get me into RPGs, but it just isn't my thing. Oh, I love the art in all of the books and the different D&D races, but I don't get the whole sitting around a table (or wandering around a coffeeshoppe) and making a story with the aid of others. I'd rather write an adventure of my own...
Yeah, actually, if you haven't yet picked up Paul Fussel's Class, it states in there that the upper class just calls it whatit is, it's the Middle Class that uses euphanisms and flowwery speech.
Where the upper class is more likely to say "I felt up Susan and Dave on the couch,last night, and then we formed a daisy chain," the middle class is more likely to use the quasi-French euphanism "Susan, David and I were being amourous on the couch, last night."
The reason being is that the Upper Class knows where they stand, as do the Proletarian Class, but the Middle Class is most distinguishable by the fact that they go out of their way to look "higher up" than they actually are.
Once again, more reasons that most self-proclaimed goths are so Middle Class.
After just having read that, hrmmm, I just forgot the words I was going to use...
Regardless, I don't see a vast vocabulary as "pompus", but it's more about knowing when to use it and how one uses it when speaking.
I don't take one's writing one way or the other, as there is no tone of voice, and for all I know, the writer could be doing so with the utmost sarcasm.
There are a few people I know who will intentionally use such speech as a means of feeling superior to others and are very obviously "talking down" to people when they are using such speech. About then is when I feel it gets immature, because the words and speech aren't used as a means to show one's vocabulary, but instead to feign superiority.
Know not to take extremes. Certainly, there isn't much fun in being involved with someone you've nothing to learn from. Still, no matter how seemingly identical, it is almost a certainty that you'll have something to learn from eachother. Variance is good and encouraged, but being opposing extremes is also not advised, as it can easily lead to conflicts
steaming from lack of common interests. Common interests and mindset are important. A relationship need not always be
a struggle over different values, perceptions and aesthetics -- I've been there one time too many and have since found
a wonderful alternative that is somewhere in the middle, though leaning closer to being my twin. It is nice to appreciate
the same things in life with someone else. It is nice to introduce that someone else to things you enjoy that they may not
be aware of yet. It is not nice to be constantly put down by someone simply because what you like doesn't match their
preferences and interests.
- unfortunate owner of a bizarre accent among other
My brother-in-law has one of the more bizarre accents I've heard. He was raised in Hong Kong, but has developed a bit of a cockney tinge to his otherwise Cantonese accent, after living in London for a bit over fifteen years.
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Scott's more of a goth than I am, and he's been trying to get me into RPGs, but it just isn't my thing. Oh, I love the art in all of the books and the different D&D races, but I don't get the whole sitting around a table (or wandering around a coffeeshoppe) and making a story with the aid of others. I'd rather write an adventure of my own...
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It's also a sign of amateurish wtiring if you're constantly trying to make everything seem more important and profound than it is.
(you see a lot of this on "goth" websites--shoot me if my site ever reads that way...!)
And, by the way, I agree on the couples thing. If you don't have some differing views and personality traits, what would you talk about?
(On a side note, my husband is of the tall and kinda geeky variety, LOL)
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Where the upper class is more likely to say "I felt up Susan and Dave on the couch,last night, and then we formed a daisy chain," the middle class is more likely to use the quasi-French euphanism "Susan, David and I were being amourous on the couch, last night."
The reason being is that the Upper Class knows where they stand, as do the Proletarian Class, but the Middle Class is most distinguishable by the fact that they go out of their way to look "higher up" than they actually are.
Once again, more reasons that most self-proclaimed goths are so Middle Class.
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The good, old days...
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Regardless, I don't see a vast vocabulary as "pompus", but it's more about knowing when to use it and how one uses it when speaking.
I don't take one's writing one way or the other, as there is no tone of voice, and for all I know, the writer could be doing so with the utmost sarcasm.
There are a few people I know who will intentionally use such speech as a means of feeling superior to others and are very obviously "talking down" to people when they are using such speech. About then is when I feel it gets immature, because the words and speech aren't used as a means to show one's vocabulary, but instead to feign superiority.
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steaming from lack of common interests. Common interests and mindset are important. A relationship need not always be
a struggle over different values, perceptions and aesthetics -- I've been there one time too many and have since found
a wonderful alternative that is somewhere in the middle, though leaning closer to being my twin. It is nice to appreciate
the same things in life with someone else. It is nice to introduce that someone else to things you enjoy that they may not
be aware of yet. It is not nice to be constantly put down by someone simply because what you like doesn't match their
preferences and interests.
- unfortunate owner of a bizarre accent among other
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My brother-in-law has one of the more bizarre accents I've heard. He was raised in Hong Kong, but has developed a bit of a cockney tinge to his otherwise Cantonese accent, after living in London for a bit over fifteen years.
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