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Dear friends,
If I am ever dating a total fucking moron, someone you think I am wrong with, someone who is plainly mistreating me, disrespecting me, or making me unhappy... Please tell me. Please tell me in plain, indisputable words, to DTMFA. I get caught up in things, and often the worse they are for me, the more I get sucked in and don't see a way out. Getting real quiet when I talk about the guy, or expressing vague doubt to me, won't do it. I value your opinion, and if I truly am happy with a person, I trust you not to express your disapproval. But if I'm unhappy, compromising on too many things, or being an apologist for unacceptable things... I need to hear it said to me CLEARLY. This person is wrong for you! And I know it's a very hard thing to tell a friend. But sometimes... sometimes they need to hear it from someone else to make that change. I'm a master at gaslighting myself in my own relationships.
Anyhow, PSA done. And thank you.
-Me
If I am ever dating a total fucking moron, someone you think I am wrong with, someone who is plainly mistreating me, disrespecting me, or making me unhappy... Please tell me. Please tell me in plain, indisputable words, to DTMFA. I get caught up in things, and often the worse they are for me, the more I get sucked in and don't see a way out. Getting real quiet when I talk about the guy, or expressing vague doubt to me, won't do it. I value your opinion, and if I truly am happy with a person, I trust you not to express your disapproval. But if I'm unhappy, compromising on too many things, or being an apologist for unacceptable things... I need to hear it said to me CLEARLY. This person is wrong for you! And I know it's a very hard thing to tell a friend. But sometimes... sometimes they need to hear it from someone else to make that change. I'm a master at gaslighting myself in my own relationships.
Anyhow, PSA done. And thank you.
-Me