I had my close friend humor me and take the MB test this weekend, as our relationship seems strained. I was interested to see what she was, and how that may be contributing to the dynamic
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I think the only problem to me is that they give me an idea and while I go off to push the limits of it until I get tired, they've gone on to the next one.
The other problem I've had is that I used to quote both of them on what they said because I was really used to my INTJ brother -- what he says goes. One basically told me to not take stock in every little thing she said. The other almost pouted at me.
Neither are very clear-cut ENFPs, so I can't say for sure what is what. One tries to give me advice (which I tend not to listen to because it seems misplaced), and the other tells me things will be okay. While the latter is true, I'd like to hear a "that sucks" once in a while.
Also, I tend to hurt his feelings. It never seems to happen the other way around. I think this is more likely because he's a stronger FP than I am, and I was raised by a bunch of TJ's.
As for the other, we used to get mad at each other a lot. We still do. We don't really /fight/, per se, but we used to be mad at each other for a day, then get back like it never really happened. Most of the time I have no idea how these conflicts ever get resolved...
Positives -- they get a sense for what I'm saying really well. I don't have to strain myself so much to make myself understood -- even if they don't fully understand, they get a feel for it. And the other way around works as well -- I get a feeling for them easily.
Oor relationship has become more strained. She is of the variety who must give me advice, and feels I should live as she does, and handle things the same way.
For instance, if I have something serious to talk about I write a letter. Much simpler for me emotion wise, expression wise, die to my personality type and ADD, but she finds this unacceptable.
She never asks if I am OK, or says it will be OK or does anything comforting at all. I think perhaps our personality type needs reassurance at times. I mean, who doesn't.
We too get "mad" at each other, though it is never really a fight. Although she did chew me out something fierce several weeks ago, instead of handling the situation in a caring manner...that was bad, because I tend to shove people away who do that.
The other problem I've had is that I used to quote both of them on what they said because I was really used to my INTJ brother -- what he says goes. One basically told me to not take stock in every little thing she said. The other almost pouted at me.
Neither are very clear-cut ENFPs, so I can't say for sure what is what. One tries to give me advice (which I tend not to listen to because it seems misplaced), and the other tells me things will be okay. While the latter is true, I'd like to hear a "that sucks" once in a while.
Also, I tend to hurt his feelings. It never seems to happen the other way around. I think this is more likely because he's a stronger FP than I am, and I was raised by a bunch of TJ's.
As for the other, we used to get mad at each other a lot. We still do. We don't really /fight/, per se, but we used to be mad at each other for a day, then get back like it never really happened. Most of the time I have no idea how these conflicts ever get resolved...
Positives -- they get a sense for what I'm saying really well. I don't have to strain myself so much to make myself understood -- even if they don't fully understand, they get a feel for it. And the other way around works as well -- I get a feeling for them easily.
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Oor relationship has become more strained. She is of the variety who must give me advice, and feels I should live as she does, and handle things the same way.
For instance, if I have something serious to talk about I write a letter. Much simpler for me emotion wise, expression wise, die to my personality type and ADD, but she finds this unacceptable.
She never asks if I am OK, or says it will be OK or does anything comforting at all. I think perhaps our personality type needs reassurance at times. I mean, who doesn't.
We too get "mad" at each other, though it is never really a fight. Although she did chew me out something fierce several weeks ago, instead of handling the situation in a caring manner...that was bad, because I tend to shove people away who do that.
So it is an interesting ride.
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