I had my close friend humor me and take the MB test this weekend, as our relationship seems strained. I was interested to see what she was, and how that may be contributing to the dynamic
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All the good things you mention go with this relationship too for the most part...I do feel I can be myself around her. I don't embarrass her, and she gets my way out ideas and imagination.
I would never stop being friends with her, and I am hoping perhaps the conflict will resolve itself.
We have both been through a lot this year, which could be highlighting the negative, where normally it would hardly be noticed.
I remember when we met we had so much in common we thought we had met out evil twins! LOL.
I plan on always being friends with her, which for me is a big deal.
I find it hard to maintain friendships in general, as most people just do not understand me, and it eventually breaks down the relationship.
I've had a friendship with an ENFP. I haven't seen her/spoken to her since March this year, but people move on. I miss her though.
Basically, I never knew how much I could love a person before I met this girl. For a person who went through depression, and when everyone else seemed to drag me down, it was amazing how much this girl could make me feel. She was my rock. Whenever I needed to talk to someone, she was always listening. We laughed, and we cried together. I just felt like we were on the same wavelength.
Any conflicts that this girl and I have had involved a third party. I admit I have resented this girl for a bit in the past, but there was a third party involved who I had feelings for.
I relate to the same wave length comment. She and I derinately are that, as far as we can even finish each other's sentences.
She knew we would be friends when I saw her all Beatles room and did not think it was odd in the slightest. In fact I am a huge Beatles fan and thought it was by far one of the coolest things ever.
I am hoping perhaps these things will mend. We both have been through a lot in the past year...we did almost stop being friends at one point even, but worked through that.
Our main problem is she feels I should be able to communicate as strongly verbally my emotions, needs, etc as she can. Despite much explaining that I can not, it doesn't get through.
In fact, when I have something terribly difficult to discuss, I write a letter. I see a therapist for depression and he sees that as a fantastic way to express myself. She doesn't...so it has caused a lot of problems...
They enjoy leading people, and often think that they are helping you with their actions - in fact, they go out of their way to "help" (whether or not it is actually useful) in your life.Boy does that hit a nail on the head. I know she means well, but it can be frustrating. She does it with everyone though. LOL
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I'm very seriously dating an ENFP right now, and we get along famously almost always. We do of course have disagreements now and then, but they don't devolve into yelling and screaming, because my laid back patience helps to offset her more fiery temper. If I get frustrated, it's because I'm the look-before-leaping, think-before-speaking type, and she freely admits that she's not, so it can be difficult getting her to understand my approach to things and vice versa.
I believe the similarities and differences between our personalities compliment each other really well, though. Her extroversion and energy draw me out of myself and keep me from cloistering myself away into hermithood, while my introversion and laissez faire outlook help keep her from running, running, running until she runs herself into the ground. Her realism grounds my idealism, while I encourage her towards optimism instead of cynicism. And yet we have enough of the same feelings about things, enough of the same thoughts and views that we understand each other
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It sounds like you have a really healthy relationship, that is so awesome:-)
It is hard to find the right person sometimes. I think being an INFP can make it harder to find relationships too, so it is great you have found someone.
We should compliment one another this way, I could site so many examples.
We do in many ways.
I think we just both have been through a lot this year, and it has strained our friendship.
My friend doesn't understand introverts at all, that is the main stumbling block. I have spoken with her about how I communicate differently, and how introverted I am. She just looks at me, or disagrees somehow
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I'm glad you're getting some professional guidance on these things as well! I'm starting to think I need to be going back to a counsellor myself.
Anyway, I also forgot to mention that I have also had a very bad relationship with another ENFP. So.... mileage can apparently vary a lot from ENFP to ENFP, as with most other groups of people as well. :)
I hope that she's able/willing to listen to you and to do her part in preserving your friendship. It's gotta go both ways. It disturbs me a lot that she doesn't respect you for who you are -- that is something that we as INFP's especially NEED, as a general rule. You've gotta do what you need to do to take care of yourself. Good luck! *HUGS*
INFP do need that, well I have always known I need that repect and understanding of who I am, and acceptance for me.
I have been in therapy off and on my whole life for depression. They thought I had Bi-Polar and ADD, until, recently we recognized it is only ADD, and that I have depressive symptoms at times. Which makes my life a bit more complex..LOL.
I think she will be willing to listen. She does not tend to drop friends, so on some level we will always remain friends. It may not be as close as we once were, but I know we will stay friends.
I wonder if a lot of INFPs suffer from depression? It is kind of a lonely life in a way, because being so different, it is very hard to find people who understand you...still, I would not change myself for the world. I am happy that I am the way I am.
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I would never stop being friends with her, and I am hoping perhaps the conflict will resolve itself.
We have both been through a lot this year, which could be highlighting the negative, where normally it would hardly be noticed.
I remember when we met we had so much in common we thought we had met out evil twins! LOL.
I plan on always being friends with her, which for me is a big deal.
I find it hard to maintain friendships in general, as most people just do not understand me, and it eventually breaks down the relationship.
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Basically, I never knew how much I could love a person before I met this girl. For a person who went through depression, and when everyone else seemed to drag me down, it was amazing how much this girl could make me feel. She was my rock. Whenever I needed to talk to someone, she was always listening. We laughed, and we cried together. I just felt like we were on the same wavelength.
Any conflicts that this girl and I have had involved a third party. I admit I have resented this girl for a bit in the past, but there was a third party involved who I had feelings for.
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She knew we would be friends when I saw her all Beatles room and did not think it was odd in the slightest. In fact I am a huge Beatles fan and thought it was by far one of the coolest things ever.
I am hoping perhaps these things will mend. We both have been through a lot in the past year...we did almost stop being friends at one point even, but worked through that.
Our main problem is she feels I should be able to communicate as strongly verbally my emotions, needs, etc as she can. Despite much explaining that I can not, it doesn't get through.
In fact, when I have something terribly difficult to discuss, I write a letter. I see a therapist for depression and he sees that as a fantastic way to express myself. She doesn't...so it has caused a lot of problems...
Totally left field, I like your icon!
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I believe the similarities and differences between our personalities compliment each other really well, though. Her extroversion and energy draw me out of myself and keep me from cloistering myself away into hermithood, while my introversion and laissez faire outlook help keep her from running, running, running until she runs herself into the ground. Her realism grounds my idealism, while I encourage her towards optimism instead of cynicism. And yet we have enough of the same feelings about things, enough of the same thoughts and views that we understand each other ( ... )
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It is hard to find the right person sometimes. I think being an INFP can make it harder to find relationships too, so it is great you have found someone.
We should compliment one another this way, I could site so many examples.
We do in many ways.
I think we just both have been through a lot this year, and it has strained our friendship.
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Anyway, I also forgot to mention that I have also had a very bad relationship with another ENFP. So.... mileage can apparently vary a lot from ENFP to ENFP, as with most other groups of people as well. :)
I hope that she's able/willing to listen to you and to do her part in preserving your friendship. It's gotta go both ways. It disturbs me a lot that she doesn't respect you for who you are -- that is something that we as INFP's especially NEED, as a general rule. You've gotta do what you need to do to take care of yourself. Good luck! *HUGS*
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I have been in therapy off and on my whole life for depression. They thought I had Bi-Polar and ADD, until, recently we recognized it is only ADD, and that I have depressive symptoms at times. Which makes my life a bit more complex..LOL.
I think she will be willing to listen. She does not tend to drop friends, so on some level we will always remain friends. It may not be as close as we once were, but I know we will stay friends.
I wonder if a lot of INFPs suffer from depression? It is kind of a lonely life in a way, because being so different, it is very hard to find people who understand you...still, I would not change myself for the world. I am happy that I am the way I am.
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