creativity in my sex addiction

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xposted to climbingthewall,
I·Need·to·Get·Laid,
Meme·Express,
Odd·Sex, s_a_r, & sexaddicts

12:36 AM 4/16/06 · It may seem like the strangest way to handle my NEED but I've generally dealt with not having sex by occupying my mind with it. Not too dissimilar from mastrubation in that it doesn't satisfy the constant craving but it does seem to ease off on the pressure somewhat. My prospects have gone down to nill of late, though I've hopes for a bit of an upsurge at BayCon, usually have fairly good luck there...there's still a chunk of time between now and then.

It's like the personals; I've found that when my sex drive is tottering on the edge of overload that I like skimming the personals. Not because I'm hoping to find someone through this method but because something about reading the desires of other desperate people is soothing to me. While there can be little argument about the fact that I'm an odd duck...I know what works for me is likely just for me alone.

This is a tentative sex Q&A:

• Ideally how long do you prefer to know someone before you choose to have sex with them?
• What's the longest time you've known someone before having sex with them?
• What's the shortest time you've known someone before having sex with them?
• When you schedule to have sex with someone in advance what do you ask them to bring?
• Do you have any special requirements of your sex partners?
• What is the ideal length of time you would choose to engage in sexual activity?
• What's the longest amount of time you've had sex for?
• What's the shortest amount of time you've had sex for?
• Has there ever been anyone that you had sex with, and enjoyed it, that you would've chosen not to in hindsight?
• Has there been anyone that you didn't have sex with that you very much wanted to once but not anymore?
• Have you ever truly been in love and was the sex as strong as the emotion?
• Without going into any detail, is your most often re·occuring sexual fantasy something you'd share with any of your friends? Have you?
• You may break this into categories of type of sex if you wish: Who was your best sex partner?
• After sex do you prefer to cuddle until sleep, run away, or recover for more?
• Do you have any limits as to where you're willing to have sex?
• If there is one thing the person that you'd like to have sex with would refuse to do that would make you unwilling to have sex with them...what would that be?
• Overall, from your entire sex experience, do you have any regrets?

my answers

• Ideally how long do you prefer to know someone before you choose to have sex with them?
  There's no set time with me, as I choose to let indivudual situations suit themselves. It's sometimes been an hour or less, there's been others where it was several days, and in some cases years can go by. When the time is right...it's right.
• What's the longest time you've known someone before having sex with them?
  Jenny was initially introduced to me for sex by Missy but we didn't actually wind up having sex until about 3 or 4 years later.
• What's the shortest time you've known someone before having sex with them?
  Met a lady at BAGG who was trying to get me out of my pants from the moment we met and in less than an hour we were in one of the stalls in the ladies room.
• When you schedule to have sex with someone in advance what do you ask them to bring?
  I'm fairly simplistic on this: ask them to wear something easy to get out of.
• Do you have any special requirements of your sex partners?
  Beyond being female and weighing 20-30 pounds less than I do, I like the women I pleasure to be either shaved or trimmed. That and they be a good kisser.
• What is the ideal length of time you would choose to engage in sexual activity?
  Until such time as the lady in question can no longer move; averages anywhere between 4·8 hours
• What's the longest amount of time you've had sex for?
  Dina and I managed a staggering 30 hours
• What's the shortest amount of time you've had sex for?
  Yetta and I lasted about 45 minutes before we were interrupted by people coming over.
• Has there ever been anyone that you had sex with, and enjoyed it, that you would've chosen not to in hindsight?
  the aforementioned lady in the 3rd question.
• Has there been anyone that you didn't have sex with that you very much wanted to once but not anymore?
  Had been friends with Missy for a couple years before the idea came to me but I was much more subtle back then and nothing happened. Then, a bit before she moved away, she pulled one of her little manipulation games on me through a few of my friends and I've not been able to trust her since.
• Have you ever truly been in love and was the sex as strong as the emotion?
  The sex, from the very beginning, with Debbie was amazing from the very first and got more powerful with each encounter. As it tends to do, when love entered the equation it just enhanced everything.
• Without going into any detail, is your most often re·occuring sexual fantasy something you'd share with any of your friends? Have you?
  The general bulk of my friends...no. I've shared with it with 3 of the women I've pleasured, 2 of which helped me act it out very nicely. One of my better male friends knows about it but we've never discussed it to any real degree.
• You may break this into categories of type of sex if you wish: Who was your best sex partner?
  For pure fucking I'd have to say Jenny. Making love would definitely fit with Kaci. A combination of the two would be Debbie. Purely oral, I think I may've enjoyed going down on Sarah the most.
• After sex do you prefer to cuddle until sleep, run away, or recover for more?
  The 1st and 3rd.
• Do you have any limits as to where you're willing to have sex?
  My usual joke is that I'm all good so long as people aren't tripping over me but pretty much anywhere is cool by me. I've even had sex with a lady friend or two at the Power Exchange in front of large crowds.
• If there is one thing the person that you'd like to have sex with would refuse to do that would make you unwilling to have sex with them...what would that be?
  Not kiss; I'm wired very funny and kissing has a very powerful effect on me, the better the kisser...you get the idea. To date I've only had sex with two women that refused to kiss me, the first being that lady from the 3rd question (which is where I developed this fixation because of how that went down) and Sarah but she was a special case.
• Overall, from your entire sex experience, do you have any regrets?
  My inability to orgasm when I have sex is a biggie! I've learned to live with it, compensated by being that more skilled in giving them to the women I pleasure, but it still sucks.