Life is going well, at least outside of my home.
All my clubs are going great, classes aren't too hard so far, and choir is a lot of fun. We're even performing in Chicago in February! I'm also attending MBLGTACC 2013 in Wisconsin in February, too. I'm also going to see Celtic Woman perform live in Minneapolis and go to my first Anime Convention in April. I've reconnected with lots of friends from last year, lots of like-minded people, even work is going pretty well these days, and my manager is being more flexible with time-off requests. Oh yeah, and I'm graduating this year. :P
It's so surreal... while everything else seems to be going great... my home-life is still quite tense. I so desperately wish that my roommates and I could get past the major obstacle that happened. However, through their actions and what was said to me... I don't think I can be their friend anymore, and they've shown me it does not matter to them in the slightest. Even after I've made concessions to them, allowing Nico's boyfriend to stay for now, and saying that Landis could come over 1-night a week, Sunday, for D&D, but then had to leave... they still ignored me. It could be argued that the damage from this situation is too great. They acted indignant towards me and my feelings, and I know what I did was right, and what I wanted was not "too much" or "out-of-line." They proved that their loyalty to Landis is far greater than their loyalty to me. I guess I shouldn't be surprised, though. Landis is pretty much their ONLY friend in Mankato, at least that's how it appears to me.
I wasn't even telling them not to be his friend. I just told them not to bring him to this town-home anymore. They did it anyway repeatedly, night after night, despite me telling them not to several times. I even received an e-mail from one of them that said he would not allow Landis or anyone to be banished from our house. Thus, forcing me to cope with Landis. He also said, "You can ban Landis from your bedroom," essentially telling me that if I don't like Landis, I should just stay in my room. If that doesn't spell, "We don't care about your feelings or friendship," I don't know what does... even if they didn't mean it that way, actions speak louder than words, as the saying goes.
Tig's boyfriend told me that at this point, I'm in the right to call the police if I don't want Landis around, because I've made it crystal clear that I don't want him here, and I have reason enough to want him out. He is trespassing. However... I'm not willing to take this situation that far. I've got too much to do, to worry about, prepare for, and to look forward to for me to waste time embarrassing myself in front of the police and potentially getting into a fight with my roommates because I forcefully removed their friend. If it's at the point where I have to use the police to get my roommates to respect my feelings... there's something terribly wrong here.
So, I've just decided to take matters into my own hands. As far as I'm concerned, unless something changes and they apologize, they are no longer friends of mine, or people I care to associate with. Eventually, all of my furniture that doesn't fit into my bedroom will be removed from the town-home. It includes 4 dining chairs, a hide-a-bed couch, a loveseat, a recliner, two armchairs, a desk, and an entertainment center/stand. I'll also be removing all of my dishes, plates, utensils, and storage containers from the kitchen. For good measure, I may even take back my shower curtain. Since I'm pretty much stuck in my room anyways, there's no reason for me to keep the rest of the house furnished. If my roommates want furniture, they can buy it or bring it themselves.
Even if I stay in Mankato for graduate school, I will not be living with these people again.
(Any feedback from those who read this is appreciated.)
It's so surreal... while everything else seems to be going great... my home-life is still quite tense. I so desperately wish that my roommates and I could get past the major obstacle that happened. However, through their actions and what was said to me... I don't think I can be their friend anymore, and they've shown me it does not matter to them in the slightest. Even after I've made concessions to them, allowing Nico's boyfriend to stay for now, and saying that Landis could come over 1-night a week, Sunday, for D&D, but then had to leave... they still ignored me. It could be argued that the damage from this situation is too great. They acted indignant towards me and my feelings, and I know what I did was right, and what I wanted was not "too much" or "out-of-line." They proved that their loyalty to Landis is far greater than their loyalty to me. I guess I shouldn't be surprised, though. Landis is pretty much their ONLY friend in Mankato, at least that's how it appears to me.
I wasn't even telling them not to be his friend. I just told them not to bring him to this town-home anymore. They did it anyway repeatedly, night after night, despite me telling them not to several times. I even received an e-mail from one of them that said he would not allow Landis or anyone to be banished from our house. Thus, forcing me to cope with Landis. He also said, "You can ban Landis from your bedroom," essentially telling me that if I don't like Landis, I should just stay in my room. If that doesn't spell, "We don't care about your feelings or friendship," I don't know what does... even if they didn't mean it that way, actions speak louder than words, as the saying goes.
Tig's boyfriend told me that at this point, I'm in the right to call the police if I don't want Landis around, because I've made it crystal clear that I don't want him here, and I have reason enough to want him out. He is trespassing. However... I'm not willing to take this situation that far. I've got too much to do, to worry about, prepare for, and to look forward to for me to waste time embarrassing myself in front of the police and potentially getting into a fight with my roommates because I forcefully removed their friend. If it's at the point where I have to use the police to get my roommates to respect my feelings... there's something terribly wrong here.
So, I've just decided to take matters into my own hands. As far as I'm concerned, unless something changes and they apologize, they are no longer friends of mine, or people I care to associate with. Eventually, all of my furniture that doesn't fit into my bedroom will be removed from the town-home. It includes 4 dining chairs, a hide-a-bed couch, a loveseat, a recliner, two armchairs, a desk, and an entertainment center/stand. I'll also be removing all of my dishes, plates, utensils, and storage containers from the kitchen. For good measure, I may even take back my shower curtain. Since I'm pretty much stuck in my room anyways, there's no reason for me to keep the rest of the house furnished. If my roommates want furniture, they can buy it or bring it themselves.
Even if I stay in Mankato for graduate school, I will not be living with these people again.
(Any feedback from those who read this is appreciated.)