words of wisdom from a 30 year old
Today is the long anticipated day. The day that society dreads. The day everybody has been asking me about for weeks. Today is the day.
So I figured I google turning 30 and that led me to googling women turning 30. I'm just amazed by the blogs and information out there about this day. Why do we place so much importance on today? Why does it have to be such a big deal? And why even a bigger deal for women? Is 30 truly the sign of being old for a woman, the day she turns an old maid, but for a man he is still strapping and young and full of life? Why is that?
I've felt like 30 for years in the traditional sense. I've been a grown up for half my life now. Living on my own, raising kids, trying to maintain relationships (albeit up until recently not healthy ones). I just feel like today doesn't hold the significance for me as it may for others. Still I wanted to compile something to signify today. So I have gathered some thoughts that I have found on other blogs as a starting point and came up with some wonderful things about being 30 and how far I have come.
I am comfortable in my own skin. In fact I love being me.
Healthy is much more important than skinny.
At the end of the day the only perception of my successes or failures that matters is my own.
Settling is a decieving word and one that so many vow to never do. I happen to love the word. It encompasses compromise and not being so full of yourself that you pass by a beautiful opportunity only to hold out for everything when all you end up with is nothing. By that same token compromising does not mean giving up a part of myself.
I am powerful and I am capable.
My independence has both served me and continues to be a hinderance. I can trust and rely on other people.
Love is not enough to maintain a relationship in either love or life. Learning when to let go or allowing relationships to change and become what they need to be in the moment is so valuable. I treasure my friendships but I am trying not to suffocate them.
Those you love will hurt you. We are only human and to expect those in your life to always treat you fairly is only setting the standard for yourself to high. Live and learn from mistakes and forgive others.
So I figured I google turning 30 and that led me to googling women turning 30. I'm just amazed by the blogs and information out there about this day. Why do we place so much importance on today? Why does it have to be such a big deal? And why even a bigger deal for women? Is 30 truly the sign of being old for a woman, the day she turns an old maid, but for a man he is still strapping and young and full of life? Why is that?
I've felt like 30 for years in the traditional sense. I've been a grown up for half my life now. Living on my own, raising kids, trying to maintain relationships (albeit up until recently not healthy ones). I just feel like today doesn't hold the significance for me as it may for others. Still I wanted to compile something to signify today. So I have gathered some thoughts that I have found on other blogs as a starting point and came up with some wonderful things about being 30 and how far I have come.
I am comfortable in my own skin. In fact I love being me.
Healthy is much more important than skinny.
At the end of the day the only perception of my successes or failures that matters is my own.
Settling is a decieving word and one that so many vow to never do. I happen to love the word. It encompasses compromise and not being so full of yourself that you pass by a beautiful opportunity only to hold out for everything when all you end up with is nothing. By that same token compromising does not mean giving up a part of myself.
I am powerful and I am capable.
My independence has both served me and continues to be a hinderance. I can trust and rely on other people.
Love is not enough to maintain a relationship in either love or life. Learning when to let go or allowing relationships to change and become what they need to be in the moment is so valuable. I treasure my friendships but I am trying not to suffocate them.
Those you love will hurt you. We are only human and to expect those in your life to always treat you fairly is only setting the standard for yourself to high. Live and learn from mistakes and forgive others.