So, I just can't seem to let go...
So, I found out last weekend that my parents can't afford to help with the wedding much if at all. My mom's not really talking to me, it seems, but according to my dad they were not expecting a wedding this year and it's just not in the budget.
I've toyed with the idea of only having the Korean wedding, and logically it seems SO much easier to do it that way...
Unfortunately, as anyone that really knows me will know, I'm not a logical person. I lead with my heart and I want what I want.
I want my friends there.
I want my family there.
I want the ceremony and the cake and the dancing.
I want it in a language that MEANS something to me, and unfortunately, that's just not Korean yet.
I honestly don't understand how any of these things could possibly be too much to ask, but it feels like that's what I'm being told at every turn.
I guess I can concede that my original guestlist was a bit long, but I have a HUGE family, and I don't think it's really fair for me to HAVE to invite all these relatives that haven't REALLY talked to me since I was a kid (excepting since I got engaged) at the expense of the friends that have actually been there for me through the years.
That said, I'm shooting for something very small at this point. It's likely that very few of my relatives will make the cut, and only my absolute closest friends. I would like to invite everyone that ISN'T on the list for the Ceremony itself out to dinner afterwards. I don't expect any gifts or anything, just to see everyone show up and have a good time is enough for me. I don't know where would be good yet, but I'm thinking about one of the restaurant/bar places at Towne Center in VaB. They seem pretty upscale for the area so we can get in there and do our thing, people that want food can have it and the rest of us can have drinks or whatever.
Maybe if I can find a church or something I can increase my headcount a little, so cross your fingers on that one for me.
Anyway, Kelly, if you're reading this, please AIM me and let's talk. If you're willing and since my mom no longer has any financial stake in this, I think I'd rather take it off her hands and rid myself of about 5 major stressors at once. <3 I'll definitely be online on Saturday morning (you're Friday night) If that doesn't work, just email me a better time for you and I'll try to make it work!
I've toyed with the idea of only having the Korean wedding, and logically it seems SO much easier to do it that way...
Unfortunately, as anyone that really knows me will know, I'm not a logical person. I lead with my heart and I want what I want.
I want my friends there.
I want my family there.
I want the ceremony and the cake and the dancing.
I want it in a language that MEANS something to me, and unfortunately, that's just not Korean yet.
I honestly don't understand how any of these things could possibly be too much to ask, but it feels like that's what I'm being told at every turn.
I guess I can concede that my original guestlist was a bit long, but I have a HUGE family, and I don't think it's really fair for me to HAVE to invite all these relatives that haven't REALLY talked to me since I was a kid (excepting since I got engaged) at the expense of the friends that have actually been there for me through the years.
That said, I'm shooting for something very small at this point. It's likely that very few of my relatives will make the cut, and only my absolute closest friends. I would like to invite everyone that ISN'T on the list for the Ceremony itself out to dinner afterwards. I don't expect any gifts or anything, just to see everyone show up and have a good time is enough for me. I don't know where would be good yet, but I'm thinking about one of the restaurant/bar places at Towne Center in VaB. They seem pretty upscale for the area so we can get in there and do our thing, people that want food can have it and the rest of us can have drinks or whatever.
Maybe if I can find a church or something I can increase my headcount a little, so cross your fingers on that one for me.
Anyway, Kelly, if you're reading this, please AIM me and let's talk. If you're willing and since my mom no longer has any financial stake in this, I think I'd rather take it off her hands and rid myself of about 5 major stressors at once. <3 I'll definitely be online on Saturday morning (you're Friday night) If that doesn't work, just email me a better time for you and I'll try to make it work!