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Excerpted from Please Understand Me II
Copyright © 1998 by David Keirsey
If I do not want what you want, please try not to tell me that my want is wrong.
Or if I believe other than you, at least pause before you correct my view.
Or if my emotion is less than yours, or more, given the same circumstances, try not to ask me to feel more strongly or weakly.
Or yet if I act, or fail to act, in the manner of your design for action, let me be.
I do not, for the moment at least, ask you to understand me. That will come only when you are willing to give up changing me into a copy of you.
I may be your spouse, your parent, your offsping, your friend, or your colleague. If you will allow me any of my own wants, or emotions, or beliefs, or actions, then you open yourself, so that some day these ways of mine might not seem so wrong, and might finally appear to you as right -- for me. To put up with me is the first step to understanding me. Not that you embrace my ways as right for you, but that you are no longer irritated or disappointed with me for my seeming waywardness. And in understanding me you might come to prize my differences from you, and, far from seeking to change me, preserve and even nurture those differences.
(I found this when I was doing some personality tests for a module we have to take at uni, and, well, I like it. Especially since I don't seem to have a personality compatible with any job known to man lol.)
Will try and update soon, everything's been rather hectic here, but my parents have (finally) moved out so life seems a little less stressful. Cept, mum still keeps ringing to remind to do stupid stuff like buy milk and bread, which I don't really need her to do, as I am 20, and anyway if I do forget then I go without, it's not a big deal *shrugs* parents *sigh*
Copyright © 1998 by David Keirsey
If I do not want what you want, please try not to tell me that my want is wrong.
Or if I believe other than you, at least pause before you correct my view.
Or if my emotion is less than yours, or more, given the same circumstances, try not to ask me to feel more strongly or weakly.
Or yet if I act, or fail to act, in the manner of your design for action, let me be.
I do not, for the moment at least, ask you to understand me. That will come only when you are willing to give up changing me into a copy of you.
I may be your spouse, your parent, your offsping, your friend, or your colleague. If you will allow me any of my own wants, or emotions, or beliefs, or actions, then you open yourself, so that some day these ways of mine might not seem so wrong, and might finally appear to you as right -- for me. To put up with me is the first step to understanding me. Not that you embrace my ways as right for you, but that you are no longer irritated or disappointed with me for my seeming waywardness. And in understanding me you might come to prize my differences from you, and, far from seeking to change me, preserve and even nurture those differences.
(I found this when I was doing some personality tests for a module we have to take at uni, and, well, I like it. Especially since I don't seem to have a personality compatible with any job known to man lol.)
Will try and update soon, everything's been rather hectic here, but my parents have (finally) moved out so life seems a little less stressful. Cept, mum still keeps ringing to remind to do stupid stuff like buy milk and bread, which I don't really need her to do, as I am 20, and anyway if I do forget then I go without, it's not a big deal *shrugs* parents *sigh*