What's not to self-love?

[imomus]

Am I a narcissist? The question itself is self-indulgent and self-absorbed, but I can't help asking it. Maybe my six years demanding your daily attention here at Click Opera have been nothing but "digital narcissism", a daily seduction, an attempt to put myself at the centre of the world, to spin myself into every story, to make myself the

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[greynotreal]

I don't understand why so many people seem to wallow in their own "narcissism". From what I've understood, real narcissism is so much more than just standing in front of the mirror/web cam, engaging in flamboyant behaviour etc. When you read more about narcissism as a dominant personality trait (or disorder) you realise that the constant need of approval from others and the self love stems from a very low self esteem and/or brutal self hate. And that's not something one wants to strive for, is it? It shouldn't be.

I don't think blogging is very narcissistic, neither posting 3478347834 images of yourself on the internetz. Everyone's doing it, so you're not really standing out in the crowd. Everyone who posts on the web on a daily basis on twitter/blogs/etc have a number of followers, and since most of us are flattered by that kind of attention, we're prone to continue posting, as to encourage our "fans" to keep affirming our ego.

Idk, I see narcissism as an entirely different thing than being a bit of a cam whore, wanting some attention and being a bit self obsessed. Most of us live in societies where the focus is on the individual, not the community, so of course we all tend to be a bit wrapped up in ourselves. That's not really narcisissim I think, it's a pretty common learned behavour that totally makes sense if you look at the bigger picture.