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[lux_atomica]

I started dating a guy who is pro-life. He knows that I had an abortion with my ex's baby and despite the fact that he doesn't agree with what I did (I intend to post the story later), he respects my decision

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[selfcomposed]

wow.

that's certainly a challenge.

obviously you feel like this is something that you don't feel comfortable pretending that it never happened. It appears that yall have talked about the issue. Have you talked to him about why you feel like simply pretending that it never happened is not what you want to do? For example, you're not ashamed, you have come to terms with it, it's something that you openly share, it's important to demystify abortion since so many women have them...

I can see where you are coming from. Although I do not feel ashamed about my abortion, I would never tell my parents or bring it up around them. They (collectively-- my family) is pro-life, and they would be ashamed and very bothered by my choice and decision.

I know that you stated that you just started seeing this guy, is it possible that yall will have sex? What will happen if you happen to get pregnant? Those seem like very important questions about being in a relationship with someone.

good luck! I don't know if I could date/have sex with someone who wasn't on the same page as I on this issue in particular.

[lux_atomica]

Yep, we've discussed it. I've rambled about it a few threads down, but basically, we'll be fighting like crazy and I'm going to have to 'convince him,' or we'll probably break up. That seems inevitable, however, since I am intent on getting the Essure procedure done when I am old enough (I'm only 20 and I've been told that doctors won't perform it until I'm 25) and he wants a family.