another mindless rant about love.
So I wrote this last night because I felt kinda hopeless and lost about stuff.
I need someone to love. To care about. I need someone to cherish.
Love isn't supposed to be an unhappything. It's supposed to be this unbreakable bond between two people. Strong enough to break the foundation of the earth if it needed to. It should be an unforgettable ( Read more... )
I know how you feel. Truly. I never had a relationship during grade school and I hated it. I hated myself, I hated everything I saw as my flaws, I hated society for not being accepting. There were times when I'd just sit in my room and cry. A lot. I know how it can tear someone apart just by being absent, because that's what it did to me for years, over and over and over and over. Love has a scary power over people. And that's because it is so universally wanted and needed by humanity.
The difficult thing about love is that while it is universally needed, it is needed in a unique way for every person on the planet. Some people want true love, some lust, some friendship... and some people just don't know what they want or need. Really, love is so many different things. Many people seem to think of it as pure, unmarred happiness, but other people thrive in relationships that challenge them.
The trouble is finding the right relationship, the one that satisfies all your needs, both conscious and spiritual. I mean, look at how many people there are in the world, it seems completely plausible that you could live your entire life without ever meeting your soul mate. And it is frustrating to finally find someone to be with and then to start to think that maybe there is someone better out there. Who is to say that we only have one perfect partner? Couldn't there be many compatible mates out there? The truth is, no one is perfect, and so the quest for love turns into the quest for someone who is as close to perfect as is possible. And personally, I know that even though I consider the man I am with to be my true love and soul mate (*sigh* I still believe in true love, isn't that pathetic of me?), that does not stop me from pondering such questions. We all wonder, because there are no answers. You decide on your own answers as you live your life. It's the only way. Life doesn't come with a textbook.
As for knowing love from lust, that is something you will figure out pretty quickly in any given relationship. Ask yourself if you think the person is fulfilling needs other than in the physical sense. Are you both looking for the same type of relationship? If you're not using the same map, the ship is going to hit the iceberg really quickly and really hard.
You probably aren't "looking too hard for love", just feeling frustrated that you don't really know how to find what you're looking for or when you're going to find it. Love is a daunting task. But it's a quest worth spending time on, even if it takes what seems like an eternity. You are still very very young, be willing to give love time to find you and grow. Perhaps you are right that love can be a "scapegoat from reality". But I don't think this is necessarily a bad thing. Obviously, there are times when it is, but once you find the right person, the escape becomes your reality.
Well, now that I have written this novel of a comment, I shall leave you to ponder love. Sorry this comment was so long, I couldn't help myself (hopefully it wasn't too boring). I should probably just get my own livejournal, eh? It's just... I read what you wrote, what was bothering you, and I knew what I wanted to say, so I said it. I'm also taking a class called "Love and Poetry" this semester, so I kind of talk about this kind of thing a lot. Believe me, such questions go a looooooong way back... we started the class with Plato and are only covering through the middle ages. Crazy.
And you're also probably wondering who the hell this is. Three letters:UVM
Cheer up, friend Sarah. I'm always here with a friendly ear if you need me.
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