Communication
I think I talked to my friends more this week than I have all year, lol. There was some drama going on, but I think we have it all straightened out now. Our group has some issues with communication.
I’m definitely guilty of talking about my friends behind their backs, but who isn’t? Even the nicest people will say stuff about their friends family, neighbors, coworkers, bloggers. Yeah, I talk about you. I refer to you all as: “this girl who’s blog I read …”
Generally my approach when I have an issue with someone: I wait to see if it goes away. If it gets better, good; stays the same, I learn to live with it; gets worse, I lose a friend. Honestly, I’d probably rather lose a friend than deal with an emotionally charged argument.
That doesn’t work with my husband. I’m pretty much stuck with him :P When we have problems, we just gotta cry/yell it out. Worst feeling in the world, but there’s some stuff you can’t avoid talking about. I think we’re getting better at approaching things as sensitively as possible, but it’s easy to let shit slip that you don’t really mean, especially when you’re very emotional and defensive. And then there’s things you feel one day, but completely change your mind the next. Or in my case, I usually have no idea how I feel and my opinion seems to change by the minute.
I only had minor involvement in this particular issue with my friends, so talking about it wasn’t too bad for me. Two of my other friends I think are going to have a much harder time because they have more history and it’ll be more emotional for them. I told them both they should talk though, get it over with, like a band aid.
How do you deal with conflict in your relationships?
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