Sexist? Y/N/?

[imaginarycircus]

I still get the rss feed for whedonesque even though the comments over there are veering into ever more uncomfortable places. Note: I downloaded Dr. Horrible but haven't seen it yet. Please don't spoil me! But I gather there has been fandom upset over it

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[imaginarycircus]

I like pink shoes! I dunno I guess I am just weird today and off. I find women often talk about stuff girls like in a dismissive way as if pink shoes are not a worthy topic of conversation.

You know it is part of a double standard I was talking about with someone else yesterday. She was saying her little sister will read books with strong female characters and male characters. But boys (especially 12 year olds) won't read books with strong female characters because they are for girls. O_o

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Thank you for identifying why I get myself into trouble by dismissing chick-lit to my straight friends! (I've been trying to figure that out, actually.) I mainly do consider books about"family and children and mother/daughter relationships" ... Not frivolous, exactly, but boring. Beneath my notice most of the time.

I suppose that could be construed as a dismissal; most of the time it is. Not that such things aren't a valid interest, but A) they're not mine, and B) the content of such novels never seems particularly fresh or new.

I suppose I should just keep my mouth shut and dismiss the junk from inside my own head.

[imaginarycircus]

Or just dismiss individual books when you know enough about them to say, "That wasn't for me--just not my cup of tea." People rec books to me all the time and I very politely say I will look at it the next time I am in a bookstore/browsing amazon and never announce that I would never read that in a million years--even if that is what I am thinking. I often do look up the books out of curiosity and to confirm my suspicions. I can't tell you how many people just rolled their eyes when I suggested they read HP. And then when they finally did they felt dumb for having dissed it.

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That would probably be more politic, but I'm tired of being all quiet with my disagreement, particularly since everyone I know seems to think it appropriate to comment on my life.

If I'm a bit offensive to prissy-ass people in order to not feel like a doormat, I can live with that. Being a bitch can be kind of fun.

[imaginarycircus]

Yeah, it is a complicated issue and I think I've just been pissed off about other things I've seen en masse at Whedonesque so this was just another part of that. The woman who posted that felt she *had* to couch her description that way to communicate with the boys there. *eyeroll*