Doing the Work
I joined a radical self care group for the next 6 months - I figured it couldn't hurt; my unconscious sees self care as a mortal sin. Children of alcoholics usually do. I missed the first meeting for being in St. John (often not taking very good care of myself at all), but I got my homework. I'm going to do it here daily, though after today it will be behind a cut. If it really bugs you, let me know & I'll make an flist. Self care need not include other torture.
Eeenyway, I have to find 3 things I'm grateful for every day, and also 3 successes. It's a cognitive thing, I get it.
So here goes:
Gratitudes
1) my 11 year old still likes me and still confides in me, and she's proud that I'm the least punitive mom she knows.
2) my husband cares about maintaining a conscious and intimate relationship - we can talk to each other about anything
3) my family is so far riding out this recession safely. we still have equity, jobs and savings.
Successes
1) I got to work on time today
2) I updated all of my banking stuff in Mint last night & paid bills
3) I did not get as resentful as usual about doing my boss' personal banking.
Yeah, okay, those were a little weak. This part may be a little harder for me. I'm not, generally speaking, a particularly success-oriented person.
Not sure what I'll think of this group, the inner critic is a little concerned about winding up in the middle of a bunch of new-age hobbyists, but I'm glad to be getting out of the house & meeting some new people.
Eeenyway, I have to find 3 things I'm grateful for every day, and also 3 successes. It's a cognitive thing, I get it.
So here goes:
Gratitudes
1) my 11 year old still likes me and still confides in me, and she's proud that I'm the least punitive mom she knows.
2) my husband cares about maintaining a conscious and intimate relationship - we can talk to each other about anything
3) my family is so far riding out this recession safely. we still have equity, jobs and savings.
Successes
1) I got to work on time today
2) I updated all of my banking stuff in Mint last night & paid bills
3) I did not get as resentful as usual about doing my boss' personal banking.
Yeah, okay, those were a little weak. This part may be a little harder for me. I'm not, generally speaking, a particularly success-oriented person.
Not sure what I'll think of this group, the inner critic is a little concerned about winding up in the middle of a bunch of new-age hobbyists, but I'm glad to be getting out of the house & meeting some new people.