a predicament.
I have this coworker here who, over time, i've befriended. He's a little slow on the uptake, in terms of construction concepts, but a good person overall.
anyhow, he's been complaining of some mystery ailment lately. something that disables him to walk. he's very covert about it, says that the doctors just say he pulled a muscle, that he doesn't think it's that, but that's all he'll say. He hasn't told bossman that he's been feeling sick, which probably isn't the best route to go. Yesterday he left after about being here for an hour. didn't tell bossman, only told Zoy. now Zoy, who's the administrative assistant and also the eyes and ears and lifeblood of this department, has been saying that he better watch his back. I've been made aware that Gary has taken notice and that Ken has also taken notice.
now, im not claiming that i've never been late, or that i haven't left early because i wasn't feeling well (afterall, most women stop working by the time they get to where i'm at). But Ken (bossman) knows that i'm late in my pregnancy and that sometimes my body just won't let me. On top of that, all of my work is meticulously done and organized by the time they tell me to do it. his is 3/4 done and a hodgepodge of his notes on a notepad. most of the time he loses them. I only have miniscule packages, but i have 7 of them. another one of them i took on seeing that it was a finish. so technically, i've done 8 packages. my takeoff is done, my RFIs will be in the system by lunch, and i'm starting takeoff on the VE package by this afternoon. This is all honky dory for me. pat me on the back, i'm a good girl. but this isn't about my accomplishments for once.
i'm genuinely worried about tim. he claims it's because of his lack of background in the subject. which is bull because he's been asking questions about this stuff since the start of the project - 2 weeks ago. he should at least START to absorb some of this stuff. he's been working here for 3 months and i feel like he hasn't really used his resources to his fullest capability. his attitude is less than eager to be here (at least that's what's perceived, and that's what really matters because the bossman isn't psychic). he never smiles except on the rare occasion.
i wouldn't normally concern myself with this type of stuff, but i feel like he's setting himself up. the worst part: the evaluation process has started. gary is both mine and tim's evaluator. i know i haven't a thing to worry about, but tim, he's going to get a rude awakening...
my predicament is this: is it ANY of my business to go to him as a friend and let him know that he needs to shape up? or that management is watching him? or should i at least coyly hint to him that they've taken notice? or is it absolutely none of my business or my place to tell him?
i'm only trying to look out for him, but business relationships are so delicate and intricate that i'm afraid to even try. my gut says: "help a fellow out." my brain says: "don't get involved, you have a family to care for and this might drag you down with him. you can't afford it."
i have to say that my brain makes more sense to me than my gut. my family means an insane amount more to me than his job welfare does. so i think i'll just keep my mouth shut. for the sake of my own job and status. (man that sounded so selfish)
not just even that, though. what if he takes it the wrong way and then what? what if his job is saved but then he hates me. he can set me up so many ways.
so that's that. *sigh* i'm glad i thought this out before i opened my big mouth. sometimes my good naturedness comes back to bite me in the ass. i just can't help but feel guilty to watch him lose his job after such a short time.
anyhow, he's been complaining of some mystery ailment lately. something that disables him to walk. he's very covert about it, says that the doctors just say he pulled a muscle, that he doesn't think it's that, but that's all he'll say. He hasn't told bossman that he's been feeling sick, which probably isn't the best route to go. Yesterday he left after about being here for an hour. didn't tell bossman, only told Zoy. now Zoy, who's the administrative assistant and also the eyes and ears and lifeblood of this department, has been saying that he better watch his back. I've been made aware that Gary has taken notice and that Ken has also taken notice.
now, im not claiming that i've never been late, or that i haven't left early because i wasn't feeling well (afterall, most women stop working by the time they get to where i'm at). But Ken (bossman) knows that i'm late in my pregnancy and that sometimes my body just won't let me. On top of that, all of my work is meticulously done and organized by the time they tell me to do it. his is 3/4 done and a hodgepodge of his notes on a notepad. most of the time he loses them. I only have miniscule packages, but i have 7 of them. another one of them i took on seeing that it was a finish. so technically, i've done 8 packages. my takeoff is done, my RFIs will be in the system by lunch, and i'm starting takeoff on the VE package by this afternoon. This is all honky dory for me. pat me on the back, i'm a good girl. but this isn't about my accomplishments for once.
i'm genuinely worried about tim. he claims it's because of his lack of background in the subject. which is bull because he's been asking questions about this stuff since the start of the project - 2 weeks ago. he should at least START to absorb some of this stuff. he's been working here for 3 months and i feel like he hasn't really used his resources to his fullest capability. his attitude is less than eager to be here (at least that's what's perceived, and that's what really matters because the bossman isn't psychic). he never smiles except on the rare occasion.
i wouldn't normally concern myself with this type of stuff, but i feel like he's setting himself up. the worst part: the evaluation process has started. gary is both mine and tim's evaluator. i know i haven't a thing to worry about, but tim, he's going to get a rude awakening...
my predicament is this: is it ANY of my business to go to him as a friend and let him know that he needs to shape up? or that management is watching him? or should i at least coyly hint to him that they've taken notice? or is it absolutely none of my business or my place to tell him?
i'm only trying to look out for him, but business relationships are so delicate and intricate that i'm afraid to even try. my gut says: "help a fellow out." my brain says: "don't get involved, you have a family to care for and this might drag you down with him. you can't afford it."
i have to say that my brain makes more sense to me than my gut. my family means an insane amount more to me than his job welfare does. so i think i'll just keep my mouth shut. for the sake of my own job and status. (man that sounded so selfish)
not just even that, though. what if he takes it the wrong way and then what? what if his job is saved but then he hates me. he can set me up so many ways.
so that's that. *sigh* i'm glad i thought this out before i opened my big mouth. sometimes my good naturedness comes back to bite me in the ass. i just can't help but feel guilty to watch him lose his job after such a short time.