Alternative relationship constructs
So, I totally made a poll yesterday for you guys. If you haven't filled it out yet, please go do so!
In the meantime, right now, "Interests" seems to be leading the pack, so I am going to pick some of the things off my interests list on my bio page and write about them. I'mma start with the ones that don't seem to have much love in the grater ElJay community 'cos no one else seems to have them listed.
So!
Alternative relationship constructs:
I think this is pretty obvious - I am fascinated by how people construct their relationships in ways that fall outside the hetero/ mono-normative strictures of most "civilised" societies. This includes D/s, S/M, queer and/or gay relationships, poly-iterations, gender-identity concerns, swinging, and whatever else you can throw in there.
Part of it is 'cos it has something to do with me - I am bi and I am poly and I am kink-free but fetish-friendly. When I have the opportunity to see how others manage their relationships in these and other dynamics, I have more tools available to me to manage MY relationship(s) - even if I only have one relationship going on, the ability to learn from others is beneficial to me, because I am given the opportunity to discuss it with my partner, thereby creating lines of communication and opportunity that might not otherwise have been established (wow, that was a long, convoluted sentence).
Say, for example, that I am reading Different Loving. It's not really my "thing" per se - I'm not heavily involved in power exchange or general kink, bondage doesn't do much for me really, and I haven't got much use for flogging as a whole. But in reading about it, I have the opportunity to shift my perspective on the lifestyle as a while, which in turn, allows me to consider things I might not otherwise have had reason to. "Hon, I was reading this book/ community/ web page, and it was talking about [Topic]. What do you think about it?" And we're able to have more openness between US and a stronger understanding of one another, while simultaneously providing us tools should that come up for us later in our relationship wiht one another or with others.
In the meantime, right now, "Interests" seems to be leading the pack, so I am going to pick some of the things off my interests list on my bio page and write about them. I'mma start with the ones that don't seem to have much love in the grater ElJay community 'cos no one else seems to have them listed.
So!
Alternative relationship constructs:
I think this is pretty obvious - I am fascinated by how people construct their relationships in ways that fall outside the hetero/ mono-normative strictures of most "civilised" societies. This includes D/s, S/M, queer and/or gay relationships, poly-iterations, gender-identity concerns, swinging, and whatever else you can throw in there.
Part of it is 'cos it has something to do with me - I am bi and I am poly and I am kink-free but fetish-friendly. When I have the opportunity to see how others manage their relationships in these and other dynamics, I have more tools available to me to manage MY relationship(s) - even if I only have one relationship going on, the ability to learn from others is beneficial to me, because I am given the opportunity to discuss it with my partner, thereby creating lines of communication and opportunity that might not otherwise have been established (wow, that was a long, convoluted sentence).
Say, for example, that I am reading Different Loving. It's not really my "thing" per se - I'm not heavily involved in power exchange or general kink, bondage doesn't do much for me really, and I haven't got much use for flogging as a whole. But in reading about it, I have the opportunity to shift my perspective on the lifestyle as a while, which in turn, allows me to consider things I might not otherwise have had reason to. "Hon, I was reading this book/ community/ web page, and it was talking about [Topic]. What do you think about it?" And we're able to have more openness between US and a stronger understanding of one another, while simultaneously providing us tools should that come up for us later in our relationship wiht one another or with others.