Who's got a fuckin problem?

[ih8b1llg8s]

This has been an issue that I have brushed off my shoulder for some time because I really dont give 37 shits what most of you have to say sometimes. But over the past few years....mainly since I have been married, many of my long time friends from my youth have abandoned our friendship but continued friendships with others from our rather large

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[cliff_a_roni]

Where did all this animosity come from? We abandoned you? No. Daniel I always wanted to hang out with you and your wife. I like to get high and "roll" and all those other drugs that you guys were in to. (You probably still are, I just don't know about it because I don't care.)
You know what this is coming out all wrong. Let me start from the begining of this whole ordeal.
You're right. I was a childish fool to think that you were the problem, Merideth. I thought he didn't want to be around us anymore, and blah blah blah, you know how it is. I was wrong. I see, now that I myself am married and have a daughter on the way, that I was being a jerk. For that, I apologize.
However, Daniel, your constant drug use has always gotten in the way of our friendship. You like to get high. I don't. It's that simple. I refuse to be part of anything of the sort, whether it be you actually performing the act in front of me, or one of your "friends" doing it, guess what? Wasn't going to happen around me. Yeah I dabbled a bit in high-school. But that's over and done with now. And to add fuel to this, you invite crack-addicted, pot smoking and who knows what else, into your home to help you pay the bills. So that rules me out of coming over to hang out doesn't it?
You say you've grown up, but I fail to see this particular ponit of view. You know what I see? I see you working at PJ's trying to make ends meet, while you smoke pot and wonder where all of your money is going. I see you inviting vagrants into your home to be around you and your family. I see you failing to recongnize that it's not me or Scott, or Matt, or whoever that is the problem. It's you. It always has been, and from what I see, it always will be. You still have ways to go before you have the right to call anyone else out on "kiddy bullshit"
Merideth, like I said before, I had no right to blame you for Daniel's behavior. In my eyes, you have done no wrong. However, how dare you call me out for Daniel's habits. Right, I know that it's MY fault for Daniel smoking pot in the manager's office....on tape. It's my fault that he doesn't want to clean up his act to get a good paying job to take care of his family. It's my fault you, being his wife and all, won't tell him about his "drug problem". It's my fault that Nick actually checks the tape after he comes in and office still smells like pot from the day before. It's my fault that he fired him. It's my fault you almost lost everything because of Daniel's habits. I know, Merideth. I know it's all my fault. Could you ever find it in your heart to forgive me?
Stop blaming your problems on other people. Wake up from your life long high and realize that the world has moved on without you.
So we abandoned you? No. You abandoned yourself. If you want to continue the matter...fine. But I advise you to let this whole subject go. You have your lives. I have mine.

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[spoiledfreek]

OK, so here we go again. With the new adult understanding you have so recently aquired, please re-read what I said. I said if you all had been real friends... you would have addressed his drug problem, not disassociated yourselves from him for it. Yeah, his drugs screwed up alot of things. But when you have no friends because you are doing drugs and no one tells you that is why they are not your friend... well.. we see a shitty circle of depression and self loathing begin don't we. Oh and believe me, he isn't into drugs anymore. He knows what will happen. I haven't done anything since Anna was concieved. See that's the thing... you don't know shit. You sat there after the little "how's life been" convo with D and said "If you leave your wife, I might come around". So its my job after walking in the door and meeting the pothead to address his drug use. YOU HAVE KNOWN HIM FOR YEEEEARS. When were you going to speak up??? Seriously. Matt stopped talking to us because of something I did, which I admit was shitty. But was still none of Matt's business. Matt and I have made peace. I don't get where you think you are completely without any sort of blame here. You should look up the definition of intervention rather than blame me. I stepped into a relationship with a teenager and acted like a teenager right along with him. I stopped everything and grew up. It was a slower process with Daniel and he made some really shitty decisions along the way. But fact of the matter is, he is here. He wants his friends back. As for the comments about his still working at Papa Johns... he enjoys it. It isn't because he CAN'T get a different job. He doesn't want one. I don't care where he works as long as he is happy while he is doing it. I'm not the crack the whip "grow up and do it my way because you married me you asshole" type wife. Sorry. Those of you that are attached to a ball and chain. D's chain comes with a "pull in case of boredom" latch. However, since no one wants him involved in anything.... he doesn't pull that release very often. We are the first to have a house and space that is parent free. And honestly, the last time you all came over and associated with us was when I was pregnant. For fucks sake, when he came to you all and told you I was pregnant, you asked "is it yours?". Thanks for the vote of confidence everyone. At the time I knew no one, had no friends other than his and I was the cheating devil whore. That part came a year and a half later I suppose. When my husband was an asshole because he had no where to go and nothing to do and was tired of being stuck up my ass all the time... as tired as I was of him being stuck there. I'm ranting a ton here. But Honestly, I don't care. I'm angry. I want him to be happy. I want the friends that abondoned him as a pot head loser to realize that he hasn't done drugs in over a year and his family is doing quite well, minus the presence of some friends that he really misses.

whatever...
goodnight.