Trust
It's been a long time since I posted here, but I have come to the time where I must in order to maintain sanity.
After doing some very dangerous and stupid shit in NC, we scooped my wife's lil brother up and moved him in with us to avoid going to jail or getting killed from the "wrong people" he hung out with. About a week after he got here he admitted he had no life and no real friends in NC, because none of them really and truly cared about him. He bought some Coke from his sister's Boyfriends brother ($50). I knew had was doing it becuase he was sniffling and had toilet paper stuffed in his nose. He later admitted he had done it. Mind you we have already sent one ex-roomate to jail and got $560 in restitution for the things he stole and money he robbed from our daughter. We sent him to jail and it all started when he brought the Coke in my home AFTER one warning and a near fist fight in the front lawn. I also kicked MY best female friend to the proverbial curb for not curbing HER coke habit. She was Anna's GodMother.
Now I bring you to today.
I was in the back of the house watchin him thru the window as he smoked a bowl of weed. I have no arguments with pot whatsoever, I used to smoke. I hooked up the PS2 and reached ontop of it to turn it on and found a small pane of glass and a razor blade. This blew my mind. When I asked him why it was there he had the nerve to tell me to PUT IT BACK WHERE I FOUND IT!!!!! It was at the right height for my 2 yr odl to cut herself on it. If he had left any coke on it my kid coulda gotten it. Then I coulda gone to jail for HIS stupidity.
We dont keep secrets in my family and this was not a welcome one. I am in utter disbelief that after he told us he would not do it after he bought the "crappy coke" he got from, his sisters bf's brother, that I find his glass and razor IN MY HOUSE!!
I'm not going to scream and bitch at him because thats what he has gotten more than anything from what I can tell. Yelling at someone will only make them not want to talk to you and nothing will get accomplished. I'm not going to be his daddy, not going to threaten him with restriction, not going to be his mommy and be upset. I'm going to be his big brother who he has betrayed his trust with and needs to be a man and admit he was wrong. His lack of concern could potentially affect everyone in this house and cost my daughters life if she had gotten it.
I love him because I was the little brother just like him with 2 older sisters. I know what kinda shit he caught from them, cuz I got the same. I will TALK to him today and post how it went.
After doing some very dangerous and stupid shit in NC, we scooped my wife's lil brother up and moved him in with us to avoid going to jail or getting killed from the "wrong people" he hung out with. About a week after he got here he admitted he had no life and no real friends in NC, because none of them really and truly cared about him. He bought some Coke from his sister's Boyfriends brother ($50). I knew had was doing it becuase he was sniffling and had toilet paper stuffed in his nose. He later admitted he had done it. Mind you we have already sent one ex-roomate to jail and got $560 in restitution for the things he stole and money he robbed from our daughter. We sent him to jail and it all started when he brought the Coke in my home AFTER one warning and a near fist fight in the front lawn. I also kicked MY best female friend to the proverbial curb for not curbing HER coke habit. She was Anna's GodMother.
Now I bring you to today.
I was in the back of the house watchin him thru the window as he smoked a bowl of weed. I have no arguments with pot whatsoever, I used to smoke. I hooked up the PS2 and reached ontop of it to turn it on and found a small pane of glass and a razor blade. This blew my mind. When I asked him why it was there he had the nerve to tell me to PUT IT BACK WHERE I FOUND IT!!!!! It was at the right height for my 2 yr odl to cut herself on it. If he had left any coke on it my kid coulda gotten it. Then I coulda gone to jail for HIS stupidity.
We dont keep secrets in my family and this was not a welcome one. I am in utter disbelief that after he told us he would not do it after he bought the "crappy coke" he got from, his sisters bf's brother, that I find his glass and razor IN MY HOUSE!!
I'm not going to scream and bitch at him because thats what he has gotten more than anything from what I can tell. Yelling at someone will only make them not want to talk to you and nothing will get accomplished. I'm not going to be his daddy, not going to threaten him with restriction, not going to be his mommy and be upset. I'm going to be his big brother who he has betrayed his trust with and needs to be a man and admit he was wrong. His lack of concern could potentially affect everyone in this house and cost my daughters life if she had gotten it.
I love him because I was the little brother just like him with 2 older sisters. I know what kinda shit he caught from them, cuz I got the same. I will TALK to him today and post how it went.