im so sick of this shit. !!!!
I have been trying and trying and trying for the past month and a half to find a fucking job. what the fuck is wrong with ppl. if you post an add to hire someone and then make an interview you dont say sorry well call you when we need someone. what the fuck does that mean. you post a fucking ad and then expect not to hire someone, how fucking
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The job situation:
Employers want to look at your resume and see that you're a stable and reliable person. If they notice that you've had seven jobs in the last year, they're going to wonder why that is. And even if you don't put it on your resume, they'll be able to see it when they do a background check with your SSN. Sometimes you have to really suck it up and do a shitty job for a while, but remember something.
A) Always do your job the best that you can, regardless of if you like it or not. Your employer is going to notice and if you quit and need a reference, s/he will remember how you were as a worker and what energy you brought to the workplace. (I recently completed an internship this summer and I absolutely could not STAND the man for whom I was working. He was such an ass; but everyday I showed up and smiled every time he made a bad joke, asked to me to do something, or spoke with me. And when I quit, he wrote me a fantastic recommendation letter)
B) Just because you're working a shitty job, doesn't mean that you can't go out and try to find another one. Just don't let your employer know. You're going to need a source of income, remember that.
They may also want to see that you made progress and moved up while you were at your job. Going from stockboy at the supermarket to manager of the deli is a big deal to them. Make sure that you mention that to them during the interview. Also it may be what you're wearing to the interview. Proper attire is very, very important to a company. The interviewer isn't going to care what's on your resume if you show up wearing polka dot pants, a plaid vest, a striped shirt, and bowling shoes. You have to instantly make a good impression, and that usually involves wowing them when you first walk in. Also, when you interview, it's fine if you ask questions. "What will I be doing exactly?" "Are there any chances of advancement?" etc., etc. It shows that you're interested in the position and have thought about it and that you just didn't see a Help Wanted sign and walk in.
If you want, you can email me your resume, if you have one, and I can see if I can help you make it better, give you some advice, or in some way help.
The mother situation:
I'm not really going to delve to much into this one. I don't speak with my own father. Haven't for... well, I can't really remember. This may sound unorthodox, but if she's really that much of a negative influence and you truly feel as though she's not enriching your life, then get rid of her. Every relationship, whether sexual or platonic, is based on a system of giving and receiving. If your mother is not giving to you (if that's emotionally, with support, etc.) and is constantly taking, then how is that a healthy relationship? Of course, there is caveat. If you do decide to cut her out of your life completely, you have to be prepared to deal with the consequences. If something does happen to her while you two are in this feud, you may (or may not) feel guilty. You have to be absolutely positive that whatever emotion your feeling towards this woman is crystallized, hardened, sure. Otherwise, you might end up making a huge mistake that you'll later regret.
Bills:
You need money. See "The job situation."
I guess that my overall message is "Don't get down." There are a lot of things that go into being employed, but I know that you can do them. Oh, and if I wrote something that you already knew, I didn't mean to insult you. I'm just not sure which aspect is bothering you the most or what thing you may not have known (if any of this is even new to you). I don't know. Give me a call 617 910 6956; I haven't heard from you in forever.
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