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Tonight I talked to someone who had the typical High School relationship dilemma: choosing between two people that you love. Quite taken back that they asked me for advice, I found it hard to say the right thing and to tell them what decision was best. I thought, lets face it; there is no right choice to be made. Someone ends up hurt either way you choose, and you never know how a relationship will end up, or where it may lead you. I asked questions and tried to get some insight on the situation to better my "advice-giving" stance. We talked about their history, their looks, their intellect, and (chuckle) even their bedroom skills. As I was thinking about it, a lot of people I know have been in that situation. They were scared of the confrontation, the choice, the hurt, and the unanswerable questions that consumed their lives. In a relationship, their are so many If's and But's that the possibilities are endless. It's tough to chose what route is the smartest and the best for you and others. I left that person with minimal advice and didn't know what to tell them. If they couldn't decide what's best, how the heck could I? But now, as I'm thinking about the situation more, I should have looked into my own life to begin with, and I've come up with the best advice that I can in order to guide this person in the direction they're searching for.
There are a million things you will never know about a relationship. There are millions of questions you ask that will never be answered. But don't stand back, waiting around for an outside answer or sign that will never come. The only answer you're going to get is the one that lies within yourself, that you've known all along. It's your life, and it's short. Don't spend it trying to decide what will be best, what will be sensible, what will be safe, what will turn out the least painful for everyone. Choose the person who gives you the feeling that causes you to challenge and question everything, that causes you to feel alive inside. The person who makes you passionate for things you never cared about before. The person you envision yourself going crazy with, staying up late and waking up early to do things that nobody else does. The person who makes you want to scream out to the entire world, yet also keep everything a perfect secret. People have told you your entire life to do what's safe and what's best, but love, true crazy love, doesn't have anything to do with either of them. Who knows, it may end up a complete mess, filled with nights of tears and hope and helplessness. But it's a beautiful mess and it's the essence of life. To hold back and to try and rationalize everything to a point isn't living. Plans and guidelines and rationality just don't matter. Don't waste time with those things when you have something so beautiful in front of you to live for. What matters are those times where you know, without a doubt, that you're completely vulnerable to the entire world, yet you feel so alive, that it just doesn't mean a thing.
Choose the person who opens up your eyes and makes you feel alive, because no matter what happens, it's worth it more than anything in your entire life.
There are a million things you will never know about a relationship. There are millions of questions you ask that will never be answered. But don't stand back, waiting around for an outside answer or sign that will never come. The only answer you're going to get is the one that lies within yourself, that you've known all along. It's your life, and it's short. Don't spend it trying to decide what will be best, what will be sensible, what will be safe, what will turn out the least painful for everyone. Choose the person who gives you the feeling that causes you to challenge and question everything, that causes you to feel alive inside. The person who makes you passionate for things you never cared about before. The person you envision yourself going crazy with, staying up late and waking up early to do things that nobody else does. The person who makes you want to scream out to the entire world, yet also keep everything a perfect secret. People have told you your entire life to do what's safe and what's best, but love, true crazy love, doesn't have anything to do with either of them. Who knows, it may end up a complete mess, filled with nights of tears and hope and helplessness. But it's a beautiful mess and it's the essence of life. To hold back and to try and rationalize everything to a point isn't living. Plans and guidelines and rationality just don't matter. Don't waste time with those things when you have something so beautiful in front of you to live for. What matters are those times where you know, without a doubt, that you're completely vulnerable to the entire world, yet you feel so alive, that it just doesn't mean a thing.
Choose the person who opens up your eyes and makes you feel alive, because no matter what happens, it's worth it more than anything in your entire life.