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[idkmybffsatan]

Since this place is like a communal toilet for brain spew, there probably is someone here who has good advice. Like girls, for instance, who understand the complicated, inner mechanisms of the female mind.

So here's how the story goes: My girlfriend dumped me.

I need advice on how to win her back. This is the girl I've loved since high school - the

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[theserenashow]

My ex-boyfriend hated the people I knew but loved me and it worked out. Maybe you just have to convince her that you're worth putting up with all the bad stuff.

[idkmybffsatan]

That's what I plan to do if I can even get her to listen.

She's afraid that they'll end up rubbing off on me, which frankly is a pretty unfair assumption. I mean- I thought she knew me better than that.

[theserenashow]

Do you have a plan beyond that?

You could argue that they haven't rubbed off on you yet, and they've always been your family.

[idkmybffsatan]

I plan to pull out the wine and chocolate, but as romantic as that is, I don't think it's going to get me far. In other words, I don't have a plan.

...I actually only met them a year a few years ago.

[theserenashow]

Yes, it might have to be a bigger gesture than that. Like, huge romantic comedy ending climax big.

Oh. Well, the fact that she's scared to lose you to them means she's also scared to lose you at all. Maybe this is just the way she feels at the moment and she'll come to realize it's not worth breaking up over.

[idkmybffsatan]

You're going to have to go into detail. I've never watched a romantic comedy in my life.

Even if she's scared to lose me, that doesn't change the fact that I'm connected with people she not only hates, but who also frighten her. If she's always going to uncomfortable around me, then I would rather not put her in that position.

adhjdf; whoops ;_;

[theserenashow]

It usually involves a thousand rose petals or a room full of candles, maybe a marching band or mariachis. Although some people hate to be singled out like that, so the band thing might backfire. It's best when it's really personal, like recreating her dream date or if there's a piece of jewelery she always loved and lost and you can replace it, that's always effective.

Is there absolutely no way you could cut those ties?

<3 No, no, it's okay! I was slow to respond in the first place.

[idkmybffsatan]

...Yeaaah, I don't think Andy is the type of girl who would like all that fanfare. It would probably seem extremely cheesy to her, but a gift of jewelry might be a good way to start things off.

Even a restraining order won't keep them away.

[theserenashow]

Not everyone does, and at least you know enough about her to be able to say that. The worst thing is when a guy who doesn't really know who he's dealing with attempts a bold gesture like that.

How about setting some boundaries? Are they really difficult to negotiate with?