aagghh!!! the audacity!
okay, wow, this is absolutely ridiculous. there's this guy i know who is absolutely one of the biggest drama queens i have ever met and it drives me insane!! he always has to be right and hes so hypocritical and highly inappropriate.
okay, to start off with, this isnt even why im annoyed, its just a quick background. we were talking about how one day,when we get older and each have our respective families, we were going to have diff rules in our families about how old our respective kids could be b4 they dated, did extra stuff, etc. he said his daughters would be allowed to date around 15 or 16 and if they wanted to do extra stuff, he'd prefer they do it at his house, and he would be ok with it. i told him that my kids would be raised in church and that that kind of stuff wouldnt be allowed in my house or my family...no "extra stuff" til after you're married. he started arguing with me about how i couldnt predict something like that and how i didnt have the right, basically, to plan out my kids' lives for them like that. i told him that, of course, nothing is certain, but that if all went as i had planned, my kids wouldnt be the type that would do that stuff anyway. well, he didnt agree and said that i couldnt make their decisions for them. i told him that, sure, right now he thinks he'll let his daughters do that kind of stuff, but when he actually has them, he wont be happy about it if it happens that way. he disagreed and said he would fully support their decisions in the matter. i said, "well, what if you dont approve of the guy their with?" he goes "well, then they wont be dating him, will they? that wont happen in my house." i go "you cant predict that. and even if you could, you just fought me on the same issue about planning my kids' lives for them, so why are you doing it? that just goes to show that you really dont have a problem with my planning anything for my future children, but instead you just disagree with my stance on the matter, and thats hypocritical." so, yeh, that ended that convo.
he always has to be right and it annoys me so bad!!! as was just proven, he thinks his opinion on things is the only correct one. granted, i do that sometimes too, we all do, but i base my opinions on facts and my beliefs, not just what i feel like at that particular time without having any support for it. this aspect of his personality more than likely explains why he got mad in the first place, because he viewed the situation only from his point of view, whereas i think i understand where hes coming from. of course, i dont agree with him, and he's absolutely wrong...bc he is...but i still understand whats going thru his head. okay, two nights ago, i was standing there talking to him and two other guys i know, one of the three didnt speak spanish, and i only know a little. so the one who didnt was just repeating stuff without knowing what he was saying, so i dont blame him even though thats a really stupid thing to do. i understand a little, but not much. i only took 3 yrs of it, 4 years ago. well, when he was having the guy who didnt speak spansih repeat him, he said my name and then "te quiere...", which means "i want" or "i want to". i didnt know what the rest was, so i go " i want what?" and right then i knew whatever he said wasn't good because nobody would repeat it, especially not when the customer in my line said if i told her what they said, she would translate it for me. and the guy repeating had forgotten exactly what he'd said, plus i dont think he wanted to get in trouble for repeating it if it was something bad. well, a while later, we had died down and the guy who was saying the stuff to start with was off somewhere, as was the guy who was bagging for me. the guy who was repeating told me what he thought he said. well, another while later, when i was the only one standing there, another of my friends who speaks spanish as well had gotten wind of what was said and told me what it meant. it meant "i want to (insert nasty bad word for "the deed" here). yeh, i was pretty mad about it, but i dint say anything about me knowing what it meant bc my friend who translate asked me not to, bc that wouldve ratted him out.
the next day, when the guy who said it about me came to work, i was obviously mad at him. well, i didnt really talk to him at first bc i ddint want anything to do with him if all he can do is put me down me like that. well, later on, he tried to touch me and all i saw was his hand coming at my face, so i ducked outta the way real quick, got real stern and said "dont touch me. okay? seriously, dont touch me." he goes "what? why you mad?" i go "im not mad, i just dont like to be touched, thats all." well, he had the audacity to get mad at me then! i was definitely outraged and appalled by this.so anyways, he comes up to me while he's on his lunch break and says "when you play with people, people dont get mad. when people play with you, you get mad. dont play with me again." i didnt say anything as he walked away, but i was thinking (number 1) he definitely needs to learn what the correct definition of playing around is and what material is appropriate in those situations, and (number 2) are u kidding me? that was so stupid. i dont care if i dont kid with you anymore, its not gonna break my heart any." ok, seriously, i prolly need to explain something here...i dont do the whole drama thing...at all. if someones got a problem with me, sure, i'll try to be nice and work it out bc i dont like it when ppl are mad at me, but if that doesnt work, then you're really not worth my time as a friend or anything else and i dont need you. you dont like me, thats fine, i dont care. i stopped caring what ppl thot of me soo long ago, so you can pretty much just get over yourself or get on with your life without me, whichever works for you.ok, so back to the whole "i dont like it when people are mad at me" thing, i tried to talk to him about it and be civil. so, i went over to him and said "i wasn't mad at you because you were playing around, i was mad at you because you were talking about me in another language and you wouldnt tell me what you were saying." he just said "it doesn't matter, i was playing around." and at this point, he still didnt even tell me what he said! (bc he knows it was bad and he knew if he told me, it would prove me right in this argument; he was being inappropriate and i have a right to be mad) so i said "okay then, what did you say about me?" and he goes "it doesn't matter, i was playing." and then he changed the subject! he goes "and why did you go 'dont touch me dont touch me'?" i go "all i saw was your hand coming at my face, i thought you were going to hit me." he goes "i dont hit women." i go " i didnt know that." he goes "well, thats your problem" i go "i guess it is." and went back to my register. i immediately realized that talking to him about the matter was a complete mistake, because he wasnt at all interested in hat i had to say, but instead in paying attention only to the details that, taken out of the situation, supported his side of the claim. i also realized that he prolly thinks he has the upper hand or something here now and prolly thinks i went to try to apologize or something, when i have nothing to apologize for, i just dont like ppl to be mad at me. but seriously, i couldnt care less what he thinks bc, honestly, one less annoying drama queen in my life is not going to hurt me one bit. in fact, i can only see benefits to that arrangement...lol afterwards, i told my old manager, one and two of my current managers about it, not to tkae action, but just because i tell them a lot of stuff on a daily basis and that just happened to be what was bugging me those days. so, yeh, im not going to say anything about it or make a big deal bc i can take care of myself. if the problem progresses past the silent treatment (which i wont mind at all btw) into something i seriously dont want to deal with, then yeh, im gonna say something to someone higher up about taking care of the problem. until then, ill just stick to my wonderful little vow of ignoring and avoiding stupid ppl at all costs...lol.
haha! ventng does so much therapy for my mood!
okay, to start off with, this isnt even why im annoyed, its just a quick background. we were talking about how one day,when we get older and each have our respective families, we were going to have diff rules in our families about how old our respective kids could be b4 they dated, did extra stuff, etc. he said his daughters would be allowed to date around 15 or 16 and if they wanted to do extra stuff, he'd prefer they do it at his house, and he would be ok with it. i told him that my kids would be raised in church and that that kind of stuff wouldnt be allowed in my house or my family...no "extra stuff" til after you're married. he started arguing with me about how i couldnt predict something like that and how i didnt have the right, basically, to plan out my kids' lives for them like that. i told him that, of course, nothing is certain, but that if all went as i had planned, my kids wouldnt be the type that would do that stuff anyway. well, he didnt agree and said that i couldnt make their decisions for them. i told him that, sure, right now he thinks he'll let his daughters do that kind of stuff, but when he actually has them, he wont be happy about it if it happens that way. he disagreed and said he would fully support their decisions in the matter. i said, "well, what if you dont approve of the guy their with?" he goes "well, then they wont be dating him, will they? that wont happen in my house." i go "you cant predict that. and even if you could, you just fought me on the same issue about planning my kids' lives for them, so why are you doing it? that just goes to show that you really dont have a problem with my planning anything for my future children, but instead you just disagree with my stance on the matter, and thats hypocritical." so, yeh, that ended that convo.
he always has to be right and it annoys me so bad!!! as was just proven, he thinks his opinion on things is the only correct one. granted, i do that sometimes too, we all do, but i base my opinions on facts and my beliefs, not just what i feel like at that particular time without having any support for it. this aspect of his personality more than likely explains why he got mad in the first place, because he viewed the situation only from his point of view, whereas i think i understand where hes coming from. of course, i dont agree with him, and he's absolutely wrong...bc he is...but i still understand whats going thru his head. okay, two nights ago, i was standing there talking to him and two other guys i know, one of the three didnt speak spanish, and i only know a little. so the one who didnt was just repeating stuff without knowing what he was saying, so i dont blame him even though thats a really stupid thing to do. i understand a little, but not much. i only took 3 yrs of it, 4 years ago. well, when he was having the guy who didnt speak spansih repeat him, he said my name and then "te quiere...", which means "i want" or "i want to". i didnt know what the rest was, so i go " i want what?" and right then i knew whatever he said wasn't good because nobody would repeat it, especially not when the customer in my line said if i told her what they said, she would translate it for me. and the guy repeating had forgotten exactly what he'd said, plus i dont think he wanted to get in trouble for repeating it if it was something bad. well, a while later, we had died down and the guy who was saying the stuff to start with was off somewhere, as was the guy who was bagging for me. the guy who was repeating told me what he thought he said. well, another while later, when i was the only one standing there, another of my friends who speaks spanish as well had gotten wind of what was said and told me what it meant. it meant "i want to (insert nasty bad word for "the deed" here). yeh, i was pretty mad about it, but i dint say anything about me knowing what it meant bc my friend who translate asked me not to, bc that wouldve ratted him out.
the next day, when the guy who said it about me came to work, i was obviously mad at him. well, i didnt really talk to him at first bc i ddint want anything to do with him if all he can do is put me down me like that. well, later on, he tried to touch me and all i saw was his hand coming at my face, so i ducked outta the way real quick, got real stern and said "dont touch me. okay? seriously, dont touch me." he goes "what? why you mad?" i go "im not mad, i just dont like to be touched, thats all." well, he had the audacity to get mad at me then! i was definitely outraged and appalled by this.so anyways, he comes up to me while he's on his lunch break and says "when you play with people, people dont get mad. when people play with you, you get mad. dont play with me again." i didnt say anything as he walked away, but i was thinking (number 1) he definitely needs to learn what the correct definition of playing around is and what material is appropriate in those situations, and (number 2) are u kidding me? that was so stupid. i dont care if i dont kid with you anymore, its not gonna break my heart any." ok, seriously, i prolly need to explain something here...i dont do the whole drama thing...at all. if someones got a problem with me, sure, i'll try to be nice and work it out bc i dont like it when ppl are mad at me, but if that doesnt work, then you're really not worth my time as a friend or anything else and i dont need you. you dont like me, thats fine, i dont care. i stopped caring what ppl thot of me soo long ago, so you can pretty much just get over yourself or get on with your life without me, whichever works for you.ok, so back to the whole "i dont like it when people are mad at me" thing, i tried to talk to him about it and be civil. so, i went over to him and said "i wasn't mad at you because you were playing around, i was mad at you because you were talking about me in another language and you wouldnt tell me what you were saying." he just said "it doesn't matter, i was playing around." and at this point, he still didnt even tell me what he said! (bc he knows it was bad and he knew if he told me, it would prove me right in this argument; he was being inappropriate and i have a right to be mad) so i said "okay then, what did you say about me?" and he goes "it doesn't matter, i was playing." and then he changed the subject! he goes "and why did you go 'dont touch me dont touch me'?" i go "all i saw was your hand coming at my face, i thought you were going to hit me." he goes "i dont hit women." i go " i didnt know that." he goes "well, thats your problem" i go "i guess it is." and went back to my register. i immediately realized that talking to him about the matter was a complete mistake, because he wasnt at all interested in hat i had to say, but instead in paying attention only to the details that, taken out of the situation, supported his side of the claim. i also realized that he prolly thinks he has the upper hand or something here now and prolly thinks i went to try to apologize or something, when i have nothing to apologize for, i just dont like ppl to be mad at me. but seriously, i couldnt care less what he thinks bc, honestly, one less annoying drama queen in my life is not going to hurt me one bit. in fact, i can only see benefits to that arrangement...lol afterwards, i told my old manager, one and two of my current managers about it, not to tkae action, but just because i tell them a lot of stuff on a daily basis and that just happened to be what was bugging me those days. so, yeh, im not going to say anything about it or make a big deal bc i can take care of myself. if the problem progresses past the silent treatment (which i wont mind at all btw) into something i seriously dont want to deal with, then yeh, im gonna say something to someone higher up about taking care of the problem. until then, ill just stick to my wonderful little vow of ignoring and avoiding stupid ppl at all costs...lol.
haha! ventng does so much therapy for my mood!