While I support you in this, I think having iconsecrets is a why people can vent or express opinions that they have without having to fear being ostracized. I am the first one to hate on anonymity, I admit, but sometimes it has a place. I don't think there is a need for the straight meaness sometimes displayed but it's going to happen.
The fact is, everything isn't puppies & sunshine all the time - and you can't make it be so. Anon Secret's comms will always be car crashes that you just can't look away from. You have the option to participate to make it nicer (or not) or you can avert you eyes. I think if you're going to be a member of one of these sort of comms, you need to be open to all sides of all arguments, not just the good bits.
Also, you could ask for another love secrets week to break it up!
Oh god no, the love secrets week was horrible. There's plenty enough adoration and circlejerking in secrets and comments already, we don't need a whole post devoted to that crap.
I think my real issue arises when people hide behind anon comments to specifically single out certain makers. II have no problem with anon comments, just that kind. I really don't like it, it's not fair on the person being attacked and it's hurtful. And IMO saying the makers should 'grow a thicker skin' or words to that affect is not an acceptable get out of jail free clause. Would you put an annomous letter though someones door saying the sort of things your saying here and expect them to just take it and not class it as bullying, because I doubt it. I think it's good to have a balance between positive and negative opinions but I wish people would avoid outright personal attacks.
Yes but. Were you here a few months ago? There was just the same amount of complaining going on and bad stuff going on, I know at some point library_of_sex got really hurt because of some secrets going around about her (not serious stuff, but have you met her? She's the sweetest person ever and the last person that people should be complaining about) and people have a right the express their opinions, given that they should express them in a less hurtful way. And honestly, I think anon is ok, but when you just go anon to hurt another person, and not take responsibility for it, I don't think that's ok. Anyway, tl;dr, people will always be complaining about something. We like the dramaz I guess. Buckle down and deal with it.
I get my feelings hurt very easily, so it wasn't any particular thing said by anyone that got to me. It's just tough to get criticism, period. I understand that everyone has valid opinions, and I put myself out there to get it in the celebration post a few months ago, so nobody was to blame for anything said, either positive or negative. In fact, I truly appreciate that when anons have told me what they don't like about me, they've been quite polite and respectful about it. I don't get attacked outright like many other folks do, and I count myself lucky! Like you, I have no problems with anonymity cuz I know many people just feel way more comfy expressing themselves without their names attached, and that's fine. As long as no one is bashing or being aggressive/hostile towards anybody else, there's no reason why anon commenting should get a bad rap. There's always gonna be complaints about this, that, and the other, so we just all have to accept that. I suppose if there were no drama, we'd all get bored or whatever, right? :P
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Ia. I just remember you stressing about stuff going around this past summer or something. And I remember feeling really bad because you didn't deserve it. And there was no time when there was no drama or flaming going around. It would be so boring if that happened right. Haha.
Aw thank you bb. <3 I don't think I deserve it one bit to be honest, I feel like I don't even contribute that much and whine a whole lot more than I should. Also, I wonder how everyone sees me as sweet because I feel like I have quite a straight, almost mean, to the point side to me. Maybe it just hasn't been coming out? :X
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The fact is, everything isn't puppies & sunshine all the time - and you can't make it be so. Anon Secret's comms will always be car crashes that you just can't look away from. You have the option to participate to make it nicer (or not) or you can avert you eyes. I think if you're going to be a member of one of these sort of comms, you need to be open to all sides of all arguments, not just the good bits.
Also, you could ask for another love secrets week to break it up!
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Aw thank you bb. <3 I don't think I deserve it one bit to be honest, I feel like I don't even contribute that much and whine a whole lot more than I should. Also, I wonder how everyone sees me as sweet because I feel like I have quite a straight, almost mean, to the point side to me. Maybe it just hasn't been coming out? :X
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