寫信的難過
The world looks grim when one's own father perpetuates subconsciously sexist inclinations that one has previously been appalled over when hearing about them in class.
Why exactly is it not okay for me to take a commanding tone of voice when asking for a parking citation dismissal? True, my father's argument that a simpering, groveling attitude is more likely to win sympathy, but I had taken the impression that sympathy is not exactly what I was aiming for when I paid for parking rights and didn't want someone telling me I don't have the parking rights I paid for.
The first letter I wrote, which ended with "the citation is merely the result of a misunderstanding which will not happen again in the future," had the problem of not actually requesting for the citation to be excused. Fair engouh. The second letter, therefore, ended with "the citation should either be rescinded or its debt cleared as the fees for parking have already been paid." To my understanding, this is a perfectly reasonable thing to say, as it is true. I paid for year-long rights, I should get my year-long rights, and I even explained why I should keep these year-long rights. Apparently not. A letter with that ending, supposedly, is bad when one is "asking for someone to grant you with a pardon that you don't necessarily deserve."
I'm sorry, I thought the reason why I was writing this letter was because I do deserve this pardon? Honestly, if the reason behind my writing this letter is as wishy-washy as he says, I don't see why I shouldn't just pay the fine and be done with it.
The third letter, which finally met with my father's approval, was nothing but brainless groveling and subordination. "I understand the error that I made in forgetting to purchase a temporary permit for that day, and promise that such mistakes will never again occur in the future." Not only is it casual, it's stupid, purposefully written to imply to the reader that the author of the letter is not very bright and a little slow on their own rights.
True, the third letter might very well be more likely to win me the excuse than the previous two, but what peeves me about it all is that I wouldn't deserve it from the third letter. In what kind of crazy opposite-universe will saying you don't deserve a privilege earn you said privilege, while explaining why you do deserve said privilege with logic and law lose it for you?
Oh, right, I had learned about this. In the perspective of a sexist man in a position of authority, making a decision on a woman that is making a request.
It's not often that I talk about gender equality because I feel like everyone talks about it and it's gone a bit stale by this point, but in this case I have only recently experienced this prejudice and from my own father and this makes me extremely angry. This opposite world is dumb and should not continue to happen, and the only way to counteract it is for women to stand up and start talking the same way as men, but am I even given the chance to do this? I did start with it. Apparently I make requests like a man or something. In this case, I was stopped from my behavior and forced to change into a more simpering attitude before my voice had even reached the eyes it was written for.
This is not the behavior that my father country was founded on. I am disappointed.
Why exactly is it not okay for me to take a commanding tone of voice when asking for a parking citation dismissal? True, my father's argument that a simpering, groveling attitude is more likely to win sympathy, but I had taken the impression that sympathy is not exactly what I was aiming for when I paid for parking rights and didn't want someone telling me I don't have the parking rights I paid for.
The first letter I wrote, which ended with "the citation is merely the result of a misunderstanding which will not happen again in the future," had the problem of not actually requesting for the citation to be excused. Fair engouh. The second letter, therefore, ended with "the citation should either be rescinded or its debt cleared as the fees for parking have already been paid." To my understanding, this is a perfectly reasonable thing to say, as it is true. I paid for year-long rights, I should get my year-long rights, and I even explained why I should keep these year-long rights. Apparently not. A letter with that ending, supposedly, is bad when one is "asking for someone to grant you with a pardon that you don't necessarily deserve."
I'm sorry, I thought the reason why I was writing this letter was because I do deserve this pardon? Honestly, if the reason behind my writing this letter is as wishy-washy as he says, I don't see why I shouldn't just pay the fine and be done with it.
The third letter, which finally met with my father's approval, was nothing but brainless groveling and subordination. "I understand the error that I made in forgetting to purchase a temporary permit for that day, and promise that such mistakes will never again occur in the future." Not only is it casual, it's stupid, purposefully written to imply to the reader that the author of the letter is not very bright and a little slow on their own rights.
True, the third letter might very well be more likely to win me the excuse than the previous two, but what peeves me about it all is that I wouldn't deserve it from the third letter. In what kind of crazy opposite-universe will saying you don't deserve a privilege earn you said privilege, while explaining why you do deserve said privilege with logic and law lose it for you?
Oh, right, I had learned about this. In the perspective of a sexist man in a position of authority, making a decision on a woman that is making a request.
It's not often that I talk about gender equality because I feel like everyone talks about it and it's gone a bit stale by this point, but in this case I have only recently experienced this prejudice and from my own father and this makes me extremely angry. This opposite world is dumb and should not continue to happen, and the only way to counteract it is for women to stand up and start talking the same way as men, but am I even given the chance to do this? I did start with it. Apparently I make requests like a man or something. In this case, I was stopped from my behavior and forced to change into a more simpering attitude before my voice had even reached the eyes it was written for.
This is not the behavior that my father country was founded on. I am disappointed.