My way: by Michelle Grissom, formerly ani Dechen Drolma

[icarusancalion]

I'm cleaning up my relationship with my teacher, Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo, and temple, Kunzang Palyul CholingIn order to do so, I need to post my clean-up confession just as publicly as I once posted my criticism

Comments

[chris_smith_atr]

Hey,

Just wanted to say read that all. I couldn't hate you for realising something so important, and taking steps to implement change.

I would say it is brave for you to post this - but being honest, after what you've said about KPC in public, and how you manipulated their internet profile, I hope for your sake this is the first step into repairing and mitigating the damage you've caused. (Wish I could be nicer, but this is not a post I should respond to with nice, I think)

I congratulate you on your self-realisation and must say I am very proud of you - after all these years confessing this in public, while right, is a hard thing to do - I think anyone can see that.

And if you ever need to talk - you know where I am. Just to reiterate, I don't feel anything negative towards you because of this. And am here if you want to talk at somoene - I still respect you and care for you as a friend.

x

Chris

[icarusancalion]

Yes. To all of it.

And you're one of the ones I wanted to talk to privately because you're one of the few in fandom that I told "my" version of the KPC story.

[chris_smith_atr]

Whenever you want sweetie. At work now (insane commute - up at 5am to be at work for 7am but means I spent 2-3hours less on the road every day).

Just to reiterate. Am extremely proud of you. What you've done in acknowledging your mistakes and complicity is phenomenal.

I hope that this makes you feel better in yourself - and happier, and more open to learning from people (as that seems to be what you want to do?).

x

[icarusancalion]

... and more open to learning from people (as that seems to be what you want to do?).

Especially that. You have always been very wise, my friend. To think I initially thought I was going to teach you. Ha.

[chris_smith_atr]

Teaching goes both ways. And strangely enough because am getting married next year as a catholic, am getting more religious in the Jesuitical tradition (i.e. not purely tied to gospel). So this is very timely.

[icarusancalion]

C -

One thing you can do is link to this post. Because I'm not the only one who's doing this and people are using my past words to slam Jetsunma and the temple. If the hits go up on this post, and it's linked to, then this will turn up in the search on this topic and start to mitigate what I've done -- directly.

[chris_smith_atr]

I'll do that now. Would you like to see post before I do so? And would you like me to ask people to pass the link on?

[icarusancalion]

I don't need to see the post, and yes, please ask them to pass it on.

Jetsunma is a woman Lama and so takes flack that a man would never have to face. She deserves our support.

[chris_smith_atr]

Done - here: http://c-smith-author.livejournal.com/40016.html

[icarusancalion]

Thank you.

[chris_smith_atr]

You're most welcome. *hugs*

[icarusancalion]

One thing: if you could change the spelling of "Llama" to "Lama." I wouldn't say anything but it's the sort of petty thing one particularly nasty critic (he just got out of prison) would leap on.

Thank you again, I'm really surprised and grateful for everyone's support.