Relationship
received this in my email.
might not be true for some.... (like myself...) but good read....
It's best to wait for the one you want than settle for the one
available. Best to wait for the one you love than one who's around. Best to wait for the right one because life's too short to be wasted on just someone.
An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes
open, and after you marry, close one eye." Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance,pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs.
Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that important. Once you decide to commit to someone, over time, their flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious.
If you love your bf and want the relationship to grow and evolve,
you've got to learn how to close one eye ! and not let every little thing bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to share a life together.
Neither one of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other?
Do you bring out the best in each other?
Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control?
What do you bring to the relationship?
Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?
You can't take someone to the altar to alter them. You can't make
someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life" you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship.
Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong to be in a
relationships.
What keeps a relationship strong?
* communication
* intimacy
* a sense of humor
* sharing household tasks
* some getaway time without business or children
* daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note)
* sharing common goals and interests
* giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure
* giving each other a sense of belonging and assurances of
commitment
If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as
resentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty and pain replace the passion.
"As long as we have memories, yesterday remains. As long as we have hope, tomorrow awaits.&nbs As long as we have friendship, today is beautiful."
Love is when you take away the feeling, the passion, and the romance
in a relationship and find out that you still care for that person.
If You Are :
MARRIED =:}
Love is not about "it's your fault", but "I'm sorry", not "where are
you', but "I'm right here", not "how could you" but "I understand" not "I wish you were", but "I'm thankful you are."
ENGAGED =:]
The True measure of compatibility is not the years spent together
but how good you are for each other.
NOT-SO-SINGLE :)
(Those who have "special someones") Love isn't about becoming
somebody else's "perfect person." It's about finding someone who helps you become the best person you can be.
HEARTBROKEN :|
Heartbreaks last as long as you want and cut deep as you allow them
to go. The challenge is not how to survive heartbreaks but to learn from them.
NAIVE :}
How to be in love: Fall but don't stumble, be consistent but not too
persistent, share and never be unfair, understand and try not to
demand, and get hurt but never keep the pain.
POSSESSIVE :|
It breaks your heart to see the one you love happy with someone else
but it's more painful to know that the one you love is unhappy with you.
AFRAID TO CONFESS :<
Love hurts when you break up with someone. It hurts even more when someone breaks up with you. But love hurts the most when the person you love has no idea how you feel.
STILL HOLDING ON :|
A sad thing about life is that when you meet someone who means a lot
to you, only to find out in the end that it was never bound to be and we just have to! let go.
SINGLE :)
Love is like a butterfly. The more you chase it, the more it eludes
you. But if you just let it fly, it would come to you when you least expect it. Love can make you happy but often times it hurts, but love's only special when you give it to whom it's worth.
IS IT TRUE????
might not be true for some.... (like myself...) but good read....
It's best to wait for the one you want than settle for the one
available. Best to wait for the one you love than one who's around. Best to wait for the right one because life's too short to be wasted on just someone.
An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes
open, and after you marry, close one eye." Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance,pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs.
Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that important. Once you decide to commit to someone, over time, their flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious.
If you love your bf and want the relationship to grow and evolve,
you've got to learn how to close one eye ! and not let every little thing bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to share a life together.
Neither one of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other?
Do you bring out the best in each other?
Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control?
What do you bring to the relationship?
Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?
You can't take someone to the altar to alter them. You can't make
someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life" you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship.
Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong to be in a
relationships.
What keeps a relationship strong?
* communication
* intimacy
* a sense of humor
* sharing household tasks
* some getaway time without business or children
* daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note)
* sharing common goals and interests
* giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure
* giving each other a sense of belonging and assurances of
commitment
If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as
resentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty and pain replace the passion.
"As long as we have memories, yesterday remains. As long as we have hope, tomorrow awaits.&nbs As long as we have friendship, today is beautiful."
Love is when you take away the feeling, the passion, and the romance
in a relationship and find out that you still care for that person.
If You Are :
MARRIED =:}
Love is not about "it's your fault", but "I'm sorry", not "where are
you', but "I'm right here", not "how could you" but "I understand" not "I wish you were", but "I'm thankful you are."
ENGAGED =:]
The True measure of compatibility is not the years spent together
but how good you are for each other.
NOT-SO-SINGLE :)
(Those who have "special someones") Love isn't about becoming
somebody else's "perfect person." It's about finding someone who helps you become the best person you can be.
HEARTBROKEN :|
Heartbreaks last as long as you want and cut deep as you allow them
to go. The challenge is not how to survive heartbreaks but to learn from them.
NAIVE :}
How to be in love: Fall but don't stumble, be consistent but not too
persistent, share and never be unfair, understand and try not to
demand, and get hurt but never keep the pain.
POSSESSIVE :|
It breaks your heart to see the one you love happy with someone else
but it's more painful to know that the one you love is unhappy with you.
AFRAID TO CONFESS :<
Love hurts when you break up with someone. It hurts even more when someone breaks up with you. But love hurts the most when the person you love has no idea how you feel.
STILL HOLDING ON :|
A sad thing about life is that when you meet someone who means a lot
to you, only to find out in the end that it was never bound to be and we just have to! let go.
SINGLE :)
Love is like a butterfly. The more you chase it, the more it eludes
you. But if you just let it fly, it would come to you when you least expect it. Love can make you happy but often times it hurts, but love's only special when you give it to whom it's worth.
IS IT TRUE????