David Bowie, of course. I don't even know the Bloc Party song.
You could always check out the romance section at your local bookstore, if you don't want to watch horrible television. I don't know whether horrible writing is preferable to horrible television, but I think that's the closest you're going to get to understanding the indistinct fuzzy ball of emptiness that passes as "modern love."
You return to my original point. Isn't "modern love" paradoxical?
Relationships without love are modern, they just aren't new. Relationships are usually built on something other than love. People call it love, and they'd like to believe that that's what it is, but that's not what it is. Self-deception is key to thinking you're happy, isn't it?
I think my point is that modern love isn't love. "Modern love" is some conglomeration of concepts that have very little to do with whatever the fuck love is supposed to be.
Of course, I remain a cynic and a pessimist. I'm pretty sure love is up there with cold fusion and world peace on the list of things that humans have never had and will never get. I'm sure there's some definition of modern love that actually sounds kind of nice, and I'm guessing that's what you're looking to write about.
I'm going to stick with "denial" as my diagnosis of your views on this issue. I'm halfway through a psychology course, that basically makes me a certified professional, right?
Not impossible at all. There are no unicorns in the modern world, either. And probably no god.
But what I'm saying is that even if it does exist, no one's going to recognize it as such. "Modern love" just means the popular view of love in the modern world, which is a figment of people's imaginations. The "real deal" just isn't around to be observed or understood, so you have to work with that empty ideal in people's heads. Because unfortunately, that's probably the most real that modern love will ever get.
Hey, I'm not the one writing the paper. I'm just offering an opinion here.
The interesting spin is in examining the idea of love and the various things that people try to replace it with. The argument is that paradoxically, people generally take their fears, hatred, unhappiness, self-loathing, and uncertainty, tie it up in a big knot, find someone that it crystallizes in, and call the resulting emotion towards that person love. And love is supposed to be the infinitely positive force that knows no bounds or limits. It's so ironic it melts in your mouth.
I'm exaggerating, of course, but if you boil it down, that's the basic case of normal people "falling in love" in the modern world. I think it's amusing, don't you?
Also, it's not "boohoo there is no love," it's something closer to "Ah, I see. Now that that's cleared up, we can finally move on to the is-ought problem, global warming, and getting rid of Fox News. And maybe breakfast after that."
As to writing the essay...
Step 1: Watch TV.
Step 2: ???
Step 3: Profit!!!
Or just write about that song.
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Bloc Party or beloved David Bowie.
And ew, no tv.
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You could always check out the romance section at your local bookstore, if you don't want to watch horrible television. I don't know whether horrible writing is preferable to horrible television, but I think that's the closest you're going to get to understanding the indistinct fuzzy ball of emptiness that passes as "modern love."
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but perhaps that's why crafting this has been so difficult.
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after contemplation, that can't be modern love because it's not love at all. and relationships without love certainly aren't something modern.
so back to the drawing board...
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Relationships without love are modern, they just aren't new. Relationships are usually built on something other than love. People call it love, and they'd like to believe that that's what it is, but that's not what it is. Self-deception is key to thinking you're happy, isn't it?
I think my point is that modern love isn't love. "Modern love" is some conglomeration of concepts that have very little to do with whatever the fuck love is supposed to be.
Of course, I remain a cynic and a pessimist. I'm pretty sure love is up there with cold fusion and world peace on the list of things that humans have never had and will never get. I'm sure there's some definition of modern love that actually sounds kind of nice, and I'm guessing that's what you're looking to write about.
I'm going to stick with "denial" as my diagnosis of your views on this issue. I'm halfway through a psychology course, that basically makes me a certified professional, right?
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impossible.
and i am all the way through my psychology course so bam! professional speaking.
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But what I'm saying is that even if it does exist, no one's going to recognize it as such. "Modern love" just means the popular view of love in the modern world, which is a figment of people's imaginations. The "real deal" just isn't around to be observed or understood, so you have to work with that empty ideal in people's heads. Because unfortunately, that's probably the most real that modern love will ever get.
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even if boohoo there is no love, you at least have to be able to do something fun with it or who cares?
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The interesting spin is in examining the idea of love and the various things that people try to replace it with. The argument is that paradoxically, people generally take their fears, hatred, unhappiness, self-loathing, and uncertainty, tie it up in a big knot, find someone that it crystallizes in, and call the resulting emotion towards that person love. And love is supposed to be the infinitely positive force that knows no bounds or limits. It's so ironic it melts in your mouth.
I'm exaggerating, of course, but if you boil it down, that's the basic case of normal people "falling in love" in the modern world. I think it's amusing, don't you?
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maybe just that women can trick themselves into falling in love to make themselves feel better with more freedom these days?
meh.
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Meh indeed.
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