Bridal shower brouhaha
This was what I was going to write yesterday before more information came along, leading to my lame HP post. I'll cut it because I'll probably get long-winded.
The other day, mom got something in the mail from a cousin. The stamp suggested it was wedding-related. I wondered if the cousin's sister was getting married. No--their brother, and the girls are throwing their future sister-in-law a shower. We thought it was a little odd that I wasn't listed as well. The girls were the contact people, so mom called the cousin, C (who is also mom's goddaughter), to RSVP as well as ask about me. Note that I didn't put mom up to this; I figured if I was invited, I'd have been on the note or else I'd have gotten my own. C said her mom did the list and she didn't know why I wasn't on there, except maybe I wouldn't be invited to the wedding.
At first I was kind of miffed. Of all the cousins--okay, technically, second cousins--I'm the one they're closest to. Their mom is *my* godmother and we spent a decent amount of time together while growing up. Other second cousins are more distant. And mom kept saying, maybe your generation isn't invited. Hello, it *is* my generation. She rephrased it better by saying maybe the second cousins weren't invited because if you invite one, then you have to invite them all. See, now *that* I understand (and felt dumb for not realizing it myself). We do have a decent-size extended family, and that particular branch already has 10 first cousins and at least three kids of cousins, not to mention relatives on their father's side, grandfather's side, and the bride's side. So, yeah, no biggie. C also told mom when the wedding is--August 8th--and that's the day I come home from camp, so I wouldn't be up for it anyway. See, it all works out.
And then my aunt called. C must have told her mom that my mom had called, and so C's mom called to talk to my mom for like two hours. They don't talk much, but when they do, they make it worthwhile. Since my aunt is actually hosting the shower (which is a surprise party), she told mom that I could come along. There were only about 20 people invited, so one more isn't a big deal. I was thinking, well, no, that's okay. I wasn't invited originally, I'm not sure I should be spending money on a gift, the girl isn't a relative so I don't even know her; meh. That was the thing--if it had been either of the girls, especially C, then I'd really be upset, but because it was their brother, eh. I wasn't as close to him because of the 6-year age difference. But then mom was like, but the baby will be there! (That would be the nearly-2-year-old son of L, the other daughter, whom I've never met.) And C is trying to have her own baby! We have to find out more about that! Uh...C is not married. C is not seeing anyone. When it comes to guys, C apparently is even worse off than I am. Bet you didn't think that was possible. I remember at L's baby shower, C went all out, sort of like she was thinking she'd never have a baby, so she'd give L's baby all that extra love and attention. (This would also be why I'm not naming names because, well, I need more info, and I'd rather not chance embarrassing my cousins here.) I haven't decided either way, but the shower's not until the end of the month so there's time. But it could be interesting.
The other day, mom got something in the mail from a cousin. The stamp suggested it was wedding-related. I wondered if the cousin's sister was getting married. No--their brother, and the girls are throwing their future sister-in-law a shower. We thought it was a little odd that I wasn't listed as well. The girls were the contact people, so mom called the cousin, C (who is also mom's goddaughter), to RSVP as well as ask about me. Note that I didn't put mom up to this; I figured if I was invited, I'd have been on the note or else I'd have gotten my own. C said her mom did the list and she didn't know why I wasn't on there, except maybe I wouldn't be invited to the wedding.
At first I was kind of miffed. Of all the cousins--okay, technically, second cousins--I'm the one they're closest to. Their mom is *my* godmother and we spent a decent amount of time together while growing up. Other second cousins are more distant. And mom kept saying, maybe your generation isn't invited. Hello, it *is* my generation. She rephrased it better by saying maybe the second cousins weren't invited because if you invite one, then you have to invite them all. See, now *that* I understand (and felt dumb for not realizing it myself). We do have a decent-size extended family, and that particular branch already has 10 first cousins and at least three kids of cousins, not to mention relatives on their father's side, grandfather's side, and the bride's side. So, yeah, no biggie. C also told mom when the wedding is--August 8th--and that's the day I come home from camp, so I wouldn't be up for it anyway. See, it all works out.
And then my aunt called. C must have told her mom that my mom had called, and so C's mom called to talk to my mom for like two hours. They don't talk much, but when they do, they make it worthwhile. Since my aunt is actually hosting the shower (which is a surprise party), she told mom that I could come along. There were only about 20 people invited, so one more isn't a big deal. I was thinking, well, no, that's okay. I wasn't invited originally, I'm not sure I should be spending money on a gift, the girl isn't a relative so I don't even know her; meh. That was the thing--if it had been either of the girls, especially C, then I'd really be upset, but because it was their brother, eh. I wasn't as close to him because of the 6-year age difference. But then mom was like, but the baby will be there! (That would be the nearly-2-year-old son of L, the other daughter, whom I've never met.) And C is trying to have her own baby! We have to find out more about that! Uh...C is not married. C is not seeing anyone. When it comes to guys, C apparently is even worse off than I am. Bet you didn't think that was possible. I remember at L's baby shower, C went all out, sort of like she was thinking she'd never have a baby, so she'd give L's baby all that extra love and attention. (This would also be why I'm not naming names because, well, I need more info, and I'd rather not chance embarrassing my cousins here.) I haven't decided either way, but the shower's not until the end of the month so there's time. But it could be interesting.