The Heterosexual Questioniare
The Heterosexual Questionnaire
The Heterosexual Questionnaire was created back in 1972 to put heterosexual people in the shoes of a gay person for just a moment. Questions and assumptions made of Gays and Lesbians that are unfair, are reversed and this time asked to the straight people.
This is a fun survey, but also an activist survey. Please repost this to your email list, myspace bulletin, use it in a group setting, have fun with it but also let the point be made.
1. What do you think caused your heterosexuality?
I don't know. Why does it matter?
2. When and where did you decide you were a heterosexual?
I've been one as long as I can remember, though I did experiment a bit in my twenties.
3. Is it possible this is just a phase and you will out grow it?
No, I don't think so. I'm pretty much set now.
4. Is it possible that your sexual orientation has stemmed from a neurotic fear of others of the same sex?
Oh, the "psychological scarring" myth again? No I don't, and I had healthy relationships with all of my parents too.
5. Do your parents know you are straight? Do your friends know- how did they react?
I told my mother and stepfather a few years ago. They didn't seem surprised. My mother said that all she cared about was that I was happy and that it didn't matter to her if it was with a man or a woman. Most of my friends already knew because they'd seen me dating men.
6. If you have never slept with a person of the same sex, is it just possible that all you need is a good gay lover?
I've tried it. It's just not who I am.
7. Why do you insist on flaunting your heterosexuality... can’t you just be who you are and keep it quiet?
Religious people don't have to hide their lifestyle, people of different races don't have to wear wigs and makeup to hide who they are, why is this different?
8. Why do heterosexuals place so much emphasis on sex?
They're worried that other people might be having better sex than they are.
9. Why do heterosexuals try to recruit others into this lifestyle?
They don't like people to be different. Also, there's some book that tells people how they should live their life and it tells people that they should go out and tell other people how to live their lives too. A lot of people actually take that very seriously.
10. A disproportionate majority of child molesters are heterosexual... Do you consider it safe to expose children to heterosexual teachers?
A disproportionate number of parents and teachers are heterosexual as well, so there isn't much option. But I don't think sexual gender preference is related to pedophilia.
11. Just what do men and women do in bed together? How can they truly know how to please each other, being so anatomically different?
There's a lot of guessing.
12. With all the societal support marriage receives, the divorce rate is spiraling. Why are there so few stable relationships among heterosexuals?
See question #8
13. How can you become a whole person if you limit yourself to compulsive, exclusive heterosexuality?
You become a whole person by discovering yourself. Sex may or may not be a part of that, but it certainly isn't all of it.
14. Considering the menace of overpopulation how could the human race survive if everyone were heterosexual?
My grandfather, in his German pragmatism, suggested that homosexuality might be the best solution to the overpopulation issue. But the heart wants what the heart wants. You just can't dictate sexuality.
15. Could you trust a heterosexual therapist to be objective? Don't you feel that he or she might be inclined to influence you in the direction of his or her leanings?
I think as long as you have a therapist who's open to the other options and accepts them as valid and legitimate, then yes, I believe that you can.
16. There seem to very few happy heterosexuals. Techniques have been developed that might enable you to change if you really want to.
Techniques used to force people to change who they are don't make people very happy either.
17. Have you considered trying aversion therapy?
I'm adverse to that.
Besides, I'm in love with a man and I'm happy. I think that, like my mother said, my happiness should be what matters most.
The Heterosexual Questionnaire was created back in 1972 to put heterosexual people in the shoes of a gay person for just a moment. Questions and assumptions made of Gays and Lesbians that are unfair, are reversed and this time asked to the straight people.
This is a fun survey, but also an activist survey. Please repost this to your email list, myspace bulletin, use it in a group setting, have fun with it but also let the point be made.
1. What do you think caused your heterosexuality?
I don't know. Why does it matter?
2. When and where did you decide you were a heterosexual?
I've been one as long as I can remember, though I did experiment a bit in my twenties.
3. Is it possible this is just a phase and you will out grow it?
No, I don't think so. I'm pretty much set now.
4. Is it possible that your sexual orientation has stemmed from a neurotic fear of others of the same sex?
Oh, the "psychological scarring" myth again? No I don't, and I had healthy relationships with all of my parents too.
5. Do your parents know you are straight? Do your friends know- how did they react?
I told my mother and stepfather a few years ago. They didn't seem surprised. My mother said that all she cared about was that I was happy and that it didn't matter to her if it was with a man or a woman. Most of my friends already knew because they'd seen me dating men.
6. If you have never slept with a person of the same sex, is it just possible that all you need is a good gay lover?
I've tried it. It's just not who I am.
7. Why do you insist on flaunting your heterosexuality... can’t you just be who you are and keep it quiet?
Religious people don't have to hide their lifestyle, people of different races don't have to wear wigs and makeup to hide who they are, why is this different?
8. Why do heterosexuals place so much emphasis on sex?
They're worried that other people might be having better sex than they are.
9. Why do heterosexuals try to recruit others into this lifestyle?
They don't like people to be different. Also, there's some book that tells people how they should live their life and it tells people that they should go out and tell other people how to live their lives too. A lot of people actually take that very seriously.
10. A disproportionate majority of child molesters are heterosexual... Do you consider it safe to expose children to heterosexual teachers?
A disproportionate number of parents and teachers are heterosexual as well, so there isn't much option. But I don't think sexual gender preference is related to pedophilia.
11. Just what do men and women do in bed together? How can they truly know how to please each other, being so anatomically different?
There's a lot of guessing.
12. With all the societal support marriage receives, the divorce rate is spiraling. Why are there so few stable relationships among heterosexuals?
See question #8
13. How can you become a whole person if you limit yourself to compulsive, exclusive heterosexuality?
You become a whole person by discovering yourself. Sex may or may not be a part of that, but it certainly isn't all of it.
14. Considering the menace of overpopulation how could the human race survive if everyone were heterosexual?
My grandfather, in his German pragmatism, suggested that homosexuality might be the best solution to the overpopulation issue. But the heart wants what the heart wants. You just can't dictate sexuality.
15. Could you trust a heterosexual therapist to be objective? Don't you feel that he or she might be inclined to influence you in the direction of his or her leanings?
I think as long as you have a therapist who's open to the other options and accepts them as valid and legitimate, then yes, I believe that you can.
16. There seem to very few happy heterosexuals. Techniques have been developed that might enable you to change if you really want to.
Techniques used to force people to change who they are don't make people very happy either.
17. Have you considered trying aversion therapy?
I'm adverse to that.
Besides, I'm in love with a man and I'm happy. I think that, like my mother said, my happiness should be what matters most.