http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/7115340/
just look at these... sure sounds like how i treated her... hopefully she can finally ditch me...
"If there's someone in your life who drains, criticizes or judges you to excess..."
"They use tactics such as:
Intimidation - Using implied or veiled threats about withholding their love or leaving.
Guilt-tripping - Implying the partner is not caring enough or is too self-centered. This works especially well with more conscientious people.
Shaming - Putting down, insulting and using sarcasm to make the other person feel inadequate. This way they stay in power as the other person weakens.
Charm - A good controller is always seductive and knows how to be flattering at times in order to reel in their partner and bind her more tightly to him.
Turning the tables - They will claim that they in fact are the victim and are being put upon, to deflect any blame or confrontation and further induce guilt in their partner."
"If there's someone in your life who drains, criticizes or judges you to excess..."
"They use tactics such as:
Intimidation - Using implied or veiled threats about withholding their love or leaving.
Guilt-tripping - Implying the partner is not caring enough or is too self-centered. This works especially well with more conscientious people.
Shaming - Putting down, insulting and using sarcasm to make the other person feel inadequate. This way they stay in power as the other person weakens.
Charm - A good controller is always seductive and knows how to be flattering at times in order to reel in their partner and bind her more tightly to him.
Turning the tables - They will claim that they in fact are the victim and are being put upon, to deflect any blame or confrontation and further induce guilt in their partner."