I've always been annoyed with how our society dictates what is the "normal" way to do things in life. People put so much pressure on themselves to be "normal" and do things the "right" way. Get married in your 20's, have kids and be like everyone else. Once upon a time that idea made sense but these days it's ridiculous. Times have changed but the general attitude really hasn't. I remember in my 20's I'd run into people I went to school with and they almost seemed to look down on me cuz I was not already married, with kids. At the time it actually made me feel bad. Like I was behind in life and failed. Now I'm about to turn 30 & I see things so much differently. First of all, those idiots who thought they were more successful than I was are now divorced. Some have been forced to work for the first time at crappy jobs to support themselves since they lived off their spouse for years. Oh yeah, you are SO MUCH BETTER THAN ME! Riiight.
When it comes down to it, marriage is just a legal contract. Nothing more. It doesn't prove your love for someone. It doesn't guarantee they will never leave you. The divorce rate proves that. Society says if you truly love someone you must get married to do things right. Not true. I personally am not against marriage. If two people want to get married then great! I don't care who it is or who it's with. Not my business. A couple deserves the same legal rights if they want them. I believe in my heart that Adam & I will eventually get married but it's not high on our priority list. It's a piece of paper. It doesn't make what we have any more meaningful than it already is. People who believe marriage makes it mean more are silly. It's a piece of PAPER!
I know quite a few people who don't like the idea of marriage. I understand it completely. There's nothing wrong with not wanting it for yourself. It's your personal preference. Doesn't make you afraid of commitment or unable to fully love someone. I think the best thing for you to do is be upfront with your views before you get serious with someone. Find someone who understand your feelings and can accept them. I'm sure one day you'll find that special person who gets you. :)
Thanks. I too noticed that most of the people I knew who got married I'm their 20s ended up divorced, even the ones who said they "just knew" it was right.
I've always been annoyed with how our society dictates what is the "normal" way to do things in life. People put so much pressure on themselves to be "normal" and do things the "right" way. Get married in your 20's, have kids and be like everyone else. Once upon a time that idea made sense but these days it's ridiculous. Times have changed but the general attitude really hasn't. I remember in my 20's I'd run into people I went to school with and they almost seemed to look down on me cuz I was not already married, with kids. At the time it actually made me feel bad. Like I was behind in life and failed. Now I'm about to turn 30 & I see things so much differently. First of all, those idiots who thought they were more successful than I was are now divorced. Some have been forced to work for the first time at crappy jobs to support themselves since they lived off their spouse for years. Oh yeah, you are SO MUCH BETTER THAN ME! Riiight.
When it comes down to it, marriage is just a legal contract. Nothing more. It doesn't prove your love for someone. It doesn't guarantee they will never leave you. The divorce rate proves that. Society says if you truly love someone you must get married to do things right. Not true. I personally am not against marriage. If two people want to get married then great! I don't care who it is or who it's with. Not my business. A couple deserves the same legal rights if they want them. I believe in my heart that Adam & I will eventually get married but it's not high on our priority list. It's a piece of paper. It doesn't make what we have any more meaningful than it already is. People who believe marriage makes it mean more are silly. It's a piece of PAPER!
I know quite a few people who don't like the idea of marriage. I understand it completely. There's nothing wrong with not wanting it for yourself. It's your personal preference. Doesn't make you afraid of commitment or unable to fully love someone. I think the best thing for you to do is be upfront with your views before you get serious with someone. Find someone who understand your feelings and can accept them. I'm sure one day you'll find that special person who gets you. :)
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And, happy birthday, by the way.
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