Just because I can't do much about it...
It doesn't mean it's acceptable and it's okay.
Incident 1:
This happened about a month ago. I was walking towards Dhoby Ghaut after school, around 6 in the evening. This guy (let's call him Pervert A) bumped into me and I felt a poke at my butt. I thought it was only an accident, so I threw him a dirty look and continued walking. Pervert A walked in front of me for nearly the whole way. He kept looking back at me. Very suspicious. I thought he was just a weirdo because even the way he dressed was kinda odd. Then there were 2 girls (about my age or younger) in front of us. He looked like he wanted to cut in front of them so I kept observing, knowing something was wrong about him. Just as he cut in front of them, his hand "accidentally" bumped into the side of her bum. She threw him a dirty look too and then, I was getting really angry. Just as I was about to tell him off, he crossed the road and I was stuck at the traffic light. I kept my eyes on him as he went into a crowd. And I saw him passed this woman and she, too, turned and gave him a look. He then disappeared to the crowd. I was partially angry at myself for letting him get away for touching me and 2 other females.
Incident 2:
Flying back from Japan, I sat next to this Indian man. It was a night flight, so I fell asleep. I suddenly awoke when his hand touched my leg. I thought he was just stretching, and I was still kinda half-asleep, so I didn't think much about it. When we landed, we stood up waiting to alight. I don't know if it was me being really tired and partially brain dead because I thought I felt a squeeze at my butt. I was really shocked and I turned to see. He was packing his luggage and it was right next to my thigh. I didn't wanna accuse an innocent man and because I was STILL brain dead, I decided to let it go.
Incident 3:
Today, I was walking with Wendy and Carmen under this shelter. It was really crowded, so I walked at the little path outside. This Chinese man decided to walk outside too, but for some reason, he decided to cut outside right in front of me. He bumped into me. Half of my body. Including my boob. I was pissed off, I turned and shouted at him. He didn't turn, he didn't bother apologising and this is what really annoyed me more, NOBODY stopped to care. That pervert got away with it just like that.
All these 3 incidents happened within 2 months. I feel very angry and disappointed. Not only in men, but the society. What is wrong with people nowadays?!
Why is it that it's happened so often to me all of a sudden? I didn't go for a boob job or some sort of plastic surgery to make myself look super hot and steamy all of a sudden.
How can I protect & defend myself during such instances?
My father would tell me to be careful and not come home so late at night. The thing is, all these DIDN'T even happen late at night, at a secluded area. And even if that was the case, why HONESTLY must I be the one that take precaution? Have you ever come across the essay about how we change from "Don't put yourself at risk" to "Don't think of raping a girl when she's drunk".
Of course it's good to be taking care of yourself and not put yourself in such risks. I don't dress like a slut or act like one. I don't wear sleeveless shirts, or even spaghetti tops. I don't wear mini skirts anymore. I don't wear low-cut dresses, or even have cleavage. I never gave these horndogs a reason to even come close to me.
When I was at the red-light district in Japan, the tour guide joked about how prostitutes "sacrifice" so men won't rape. And I challenged him, why don't the men "sacrifice" their penises so they won't have any more urges to rape innocent women?
I DON'T GET IT. Why must females must be the one to be the "bigger person". Am I supposed to just let them get away for violating me, forget it happened because I can't do much anyways, and forgive them for being perverse?
For the first time in my life, I feel that the world is really sexist. Why are we called whores when men are the one throwing themselves at women? Why are we the sluts when men go around boasting about the number of sex partners they have?
Men. I have so much hate for them. Sometimes I wonder why I'm still heterosexual.
Incident 1:
This happened about a month ago. I was walking towards Dhoby Ghaut after school, around 6 in the evening. This guy (let's call him Pervert A) bumped into me and I felt a poke at my butt. I thought it was only an accident, so I threw him a dirty look and continued walking. Pervert A walked in front of me for nearly the whole way. He kept looking back at me. Very suspicious. I thought he was just a weirdo because even the way he dressed was kinda odd. Then there were 2 girls (about my age or younger) in front of us. He looked like he wanted to cut in front of them so I kept observing, knowing something was wrong about him. Just as he cut in front of them, his hand "accidentally" bumped into the side of her bum. She threw him a dirty look too and then, I was getting really angry. Just as I was about to tell him off, he crossed the road and I was stuck at the traffic light. I kept my eyes on him as he went into a crowd. And I saw him passed this woman and she, too, turned and gave him a look. He then disappeared to the crowd. I was partially angry at myself for letting him get away for touching me and 2 other females.
Incident 2:
Flying back from Japan, I sat next to this Indian man. It was a night flight, so I fell asleep. I suddenly awoke when his hand touched my leg. I thought he was just stretching, and I was still kinda half-asleep, so I didn't think much about it. When we landed, we stood up waiting to alight. I don't know if it was me being really tired and partially brain dead because I thought I felt a squeeze at my butt. I was really shocked and I turned to see. He was packing his luggage and it was right next to my thigh. I didn't wanna accuse an innocent man and because I was STILL brain dead, I decided to let it go.
Incident 3:
Today, I was walking with Wendy and Carmen under this shelter. It was really crowded, so I walked at the little path outside. This Chinese man decided to walk outside too, but for some reason, he decided to cut outside right in front of me. He bumped into me. Half of my body. Including my boob. I was pissed off, I turned and shouted at him. He didn't turn, he didn't bother apologising and this is what really annoyed me more, NOBODY stopped to care. That pervert got away with it just like that.
All these 3 incidents happened within 2 months. I feel very angry and disappointed. Not only in men, but the society. What is wrong with people nowadays?!
Why is it that it's happened so often to me all of a sudden? I didn't go for a boob job or some sort of plastic surgery to make myself look super hot and steamy all of a sudden.
How can I protect & defend myself during such instances?
My father would tell me to be careful and not come home so late at night. The thing is, all these DIDN'T even happen late at night, at a secluded area. And even if that was the case, why HONESTLY must I be the one that take precaution? Have you ever come across the essay about how we change from "Don't put yourself at risk" to "Don't think of raping a girl when she's drunk".
Of course it's good to be taking care of yourself and not put yourself in such risks. I don't dress like a slut or act like one. I don't wear sleeveless shirts, or even spaghetti tops. I don't wear mini skirts anymore. I don't wear low-cut dresses, or even have cleavage. I never gave these horndogs a reason to even come close to me.
When I was at the red-light district in Japan, the tour guide joked about how prostitutes "sacrifice" so men won't rape. And I challenged him, why don't the men "sacrifice" their penises so they won't have any more urges to rape innocent women?
I DON'T GET IT. Why must females must be the one to be the "bigger person". Am I supposed to just let them get away for violating me, forget it happened because I can't do much anyways, and forgive them for being perverse?
For the first time in my life, I feel that the world is really sexist. Why are we called whores when men are the one throwing themselves at women? Why are we the sluts when men go around boasting about the number of sex partners they have?
Men. I have so much hate for them. Sometimes I wonder why I'm still heterosexual.