People Who Have Children Are Disgusting

[hurricane_linda]

Saw this link on Facebook today:

Why The Fuck Do You Have A Kid
Source: whythefuckdoyouhaveakid.com
Why not, right?




And here's the comments that followed the link:

Yes!



I reposted this here and on Twitter. Mindboggling.



I love this!



Sweeeet.



I will never understand why people need certificates, documents, courses, to buy guns, begin a career, hang a

Comments

[edgeofthewoods]

I don't think *all* parents are overly indulgent of their children, but I would tend to argue that *most* are... That's where stereotypes get their start, and unfortunately when you fit into a demographic, you're going to rub up against those perceptions.

Let it be known that your kids are well-behaved and engaging from what I have experienced. You and Robert are cool parents who don't live for your children - ie: you have a life outside of them, and so yes, it's going to suck when you get lumped in with the herd of folks who become the slaves to their progeny's whims.

Now, allow me to rant from the other side of the fence: I fucking hate when people tell me that b/c I have chosen not to procreate that I will never know what true loves is, that I will never feel fulfilled and give back to the world, that I can't possibly understand what unconditional love is. I am tired of hearing what a joy it is to wake up to your children and how my life must be devoid of such ultimate joy because I don't have little rugrats running around my home. I have been asked on more than one occasion whether I can't have children due to some medical issue b/c really, if I *can* get pregnant, I really *should* be - why on earth would I deny myself that womanly right? I'm tired of being told that I don't have a "family" because "family" is *only* identified as having a husband or wife and the resulting children. Just so you know, the lame stereotypes extend both ways, and yes, people have actually said these things to me in these words. I actually *do* know what I am missing out on by choosing not to have kids and I am happy for it, that's why I made the decision that I did. And if I want kids at some later date there is always adoption, which is much more appealing to me than the usual method of providing oneself with children.

It ain't any easier either way. People form opinions and then broadcast them. We get to deal with that from time-to-time. Whether it be "all parents are pathetic" or "all non-breeders are pathetic" the results are the same... I've learned to just shrug it off as ignorance. Being 100% content with my decision to exclude mini-mes from my life certainly assists in that. :-)

[hurricane_linda]

I hope I didn't imply the opposite, that people *without* kids are pathetic or in denial or deprived, with my comment about "place of fear." Just relating my own experience of knowing I wanted to have kids but being afraid to do it.

I think it's bullshit that people don't respect your choice not to have kids. But what I was ranting against was the lack of mutual respect. I hope I didn't sound like I was saying that people who *don't* have kids suck -- what I think sucks is the judgemental attitude about my choice, which means we are in perfect agreement.

Trust me, I don't think it's always a joy to wake up to my children -- especially when I want to get bizay with my husband but we're thwarted by the pitter-patter of little interlopers. Anyone who tells you that children are 100% joy and fulfillment all of the time is deluding themself and trying to do the same to you.

[edgeofthewoods]

Oh no, I didn't mean to imply that I thought you were complaining about folks w/o kids, I just wanted to point out that no matter what you do, you'll rub up against the same bullshit from somebody out there who thinks they know your life better than you do... That really gets to me, I don't judge folks for having kids or not having them, we all make our choices on how we choose to live our lives, and none of us will ever get away without being judged for those decisions, unfortunately... In a nutshell, I was trying to say that I understand where you are coming from by being on the other side of the fence and voice the fact that I hear ya sister b/c I hear the same crap from the same sort of folks just with a different flavour, is all. My "rarrr" is reserved for the jerks who judge and speak out without knowing.

You and my friend Janis are the only people who have ever admitted that raising kids isn't all sunshine and rainbows - I appreciate and respect that sort of honesty, for it is a rare thing to be sure.