Friendship..

Jul 31, 2008 12:00

(will this entry pass through censorship.. hmmmmmm...)

Was thinking and thinking.. about friendship.. yet again..

Does having one more friend means you must lose a friend? Or that you will be less close to one friend just cos' you're closer to another..

I don't think so.

To me, I dont feel having 2 close friends is a mutually exclusive thing(waH! I'm applying my maths theory! scarly apply wrongly).. as in.. just cos i have close friend A doesn't mean I need to forsake close friend B.. they can exist at the same time wad.. my friendship with friend A shouldn't have any bearing on friend B cos they are separate entities..

I never had any problems with losing a close friend cos i became close ot another..

We always meet new people.. in our whole life.. when we move from primary school.. to secondary..to jc/poly..to uni/work.. if we become less close to a friend cos we've got a new close friend.. doesnt that mean we can only have like 1 or 2 close friends in our whole life..

i dun tink so..

There's just no quota lor i feel..

Although yes.. resources are scarce(econs!!).. means time is scarce.. when u meet this fren means u cant meet tt fren.. but.. u also dun meet everyday wad.. so i meet this fren this day then i meet that fren anotehr day.. no clash wad.. and now with technology it's even better.. jsut cos i sms this close friend doesnt mean i cant sms the other fren.. you can still keep in close touch with all your friends.. but i think even without technology it's still ok.. cos you dont communicate 24 hours wad.. u can have many hours for different people!

so i realli dont see the clash with having a new friend and losing the others..

the only reason why friendships get lost is cos ppl stop making the effort to meet.. ppl stop keeping in touch.. people get more involved with the new things and forget the old..

it's always easy to strike a balance i feel.. like u make new friends but you retain your old friend.. it's when you lose the balance then will your friendship be affected..

which is why we acquire new friends but don't forget the old.. which is why secondary school friends are still close.. which is why you can have close jc friends without losing your secondary school friends etc..

anyway i thought it's interesting that people need to make the effort to meet.. as in.. must always turn up for meetings and such.. but friendship itself takes no effort.. once you take effort. .means taht there's something wrong with your friendship...

as in .. with friends you should be yourself.. conversation should just flow.. but when you take effort.. that you feel this friendship is taking up a lot of effort.. means you're not comfortable.. and hmm.. it's time to stop think and make it better!

yup.. my two cents worth.. just thought of it and i was like ohh better write down before i forget..

anyway super lazy to update bout everything that i havent updated.. lol!

thoughts, friends

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