We're baaaack :3
I have this friend I have lived with for 2 years now, when we met we both had partners, however now we both don’t, we’re very close and often share a bed platonically cuddling all night together. We also live with another girl who all our mutual friends think he fancies, including me. He has always denied that he likes her in that way but it does seem quite obvious. She has a boyfriend but she’s even said herself that she thinks this guy likes her because of his behavior around her. He has spend a lot of the night we’ve been together going on and on about how her boyfriend isn’t good enough for her and how she can do so much better, plus just general flirtatious behaviour as well.
Anyway so a few weeks ago we were out getting drunk and we came back together and ended up sharing a bed, but this time we spent hours kissing. The next morning we both woke up, and didn’t speak about it and carried on as normal. This happened several more times all when we were both drunk so one night I actually asked him why this keeps happening, he said something along the lines of that he likes me, but feels we wouldn’t work together because my ex boyfriend and I are so close and everyone thinks we should get back together. This is all very well, but I had the feeling he was just pretending to like me so I wouldn’t think he was just being an idiot and wanting sex, and using my ex boyfriend as an excuse means that he still manages to keep his distance from having a relationship with me. (As you can probably tell I’ve thought way too much about this).
Then, one night we were both sober, and hanging out in my room and ended up falling asleep together, but woke up during the night and we were kissing again, but obviously things were different because neither of us were drunk. This has happened several times since with us both being sober. I’ve asked him time and time again if he likes the other girl we live with and he still strongly denies it, but everyone around me is so certain he does and keeps telling me I’m going to get hurt because he’s using me. He’s not a bad person, but I just don’t know where I stand, asking him doesn’t really help because we live together so obviously he knows that whatever he says about it, good or bad, may affect our living arrangements.
What does everyone think?
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All: .....-staring bewildered at the letter-
Kat:-comes creeping in- Guys...?
All: ...kat..?
Kat; hello... I'm back...
All; YAY -glomp her-
Kat: what are we staring at?
Megan: this long problem
Luna: i think you should answer it -grins-
Kat: -sigh- fine. Well i think you need to let this "friend" know how you feel but at the same time lay down the law. No more letting him sleep in your bed as you both know what that could end up leading to. I would tell him that he either wants something with you or only wants to be friends. He cant have it both ways as that will just end up messy and complicated. Also he can't expect to keep having you there for him if he is just waiting for the other girl to come to him. It sounds like if this keeps going on, it will mess with your head and you'll end up getting hurt. Listen to the other posters (they tend to give good advise) and remember if you need to talk again, you know where we are. Let us know how you get on and remember - Be strong - you deserve more than this
All: ....
Kat; What...?
Ron: She's definitely back
Megan: now is that a bad thing..?
Kat; hey...-glares-
Megan: -Smiles-
Anyway so a few weeks ago we were out getting drunk and we came back together and ended up sharing a bed, but this time we spent hours kissing. The next morning we both woke up, and didn’t speak about it and carried on as normal. This happened several more times all when we were both drunk so one night I actually asked him why this keeps happening, he said something along the lines of that he likes me, but feels we wouldn’t work together because my ex boyfriend and I are so close and everyone thinks we should get back together. This is all very well, but I had the feeling he was just pretending to like me so I wouldn’t think he was just being an idiot and wanting sex, and using my ex boyfriend as an excuse means that he still manages to keep his distance from having a relationship with me. (As you can probably tell I’ve thought way too much about this).
Then, one night we were both sober, and hanging out in my room and ended up falling asleep together, but woke up during the night and we were kissing again, but obviously things were different because neither of us were drunk. This has happened several times since with us both being sober. I’ve asked him time and time again if he likes the other girl we live with and he still strongly denies it, but everyone around me is so certain he does and keeps telling me I’m going to get hurt because he’s using me. He’s not a bad person, but I just don’t know where I stand, asking him doesn’t really help because we live together so obviously he knows that whatever he says about it, good or bad, may affect our living arrangements.
What does everyone think?
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All: .....-staring bewildered at the letter-
Kat:-comes creeping in- Guys...?
All: ...kat..?
Kat; hello... I'm back...
All; YAY -glomp her-
Kat: what are we staring at?
Megan: this long problem
Luna: i think you should answer it -grins-
Kat: -sigh- fine. Well i think you need to let this "friend" know how you feel but at the same time lay down the law. No more letting him sleep in your bed as you both know what that could end up leading to. I would tell him that he either wants something with you or only wants to be friends. He cant have it both ways as that will just end up messy and complicated. Also he can't expect to keep having you there for him if he is just waiting for the other girl to come to him. It sounds like if this keeps going on, it will mess with your head and you'll end up getting hurt. Listen to the other posters (they tend to give good advise) and remember if you need to talk again, you know where we are. Let us know how you get on and remember - Be strong - you deserve more than this
All: ....
Kat; What...?
Ron: She's definitely back
Megan: now is that a bad thing..?
Kat; hey...-glares-
Megan: -Smiles-