Obviously Laura and I have a different definition of "friend"
"In 2004 the social question that animated the campaign was gay marriage. Before the election season had unfolded, I had talked to George about not making gay marriage a significant issue. We have, I reminded him, a number of close friends who are gay or whose children are gay. But at that moment I could never have imagined what path this issue would take and where it would lead.” -Laura Bush, writing in her forthcoming memoir. (Hat tip to joe.mygod.com)
No, Laura, you do NOT have gay friends. If you are willing to sell someone out they are not your friend. Please use another word. How about something that means "people we are nice to in private but are willing to stab in the back when it serves our purposes". I'm sure there's a word for that. You're a librarian. I"m sure you can find the mot juste.