Reflecting
My relationship with Friti is the most amazingly wonderful thing. I have never been happier with any one else. Nor have I ever felt so loved and cherished in my life by a lover/partner/ etc.
And it all started in November 2008, When I met Friti on Second Life. On Second Life, we both began working at a club in world. We quickly developed a rather trusting bond.
Friti told me things, I told him things. Things that I normally would never trust any one with. I felt like I could tell him anything, and he would not tell any one or judge me. Needless to say, I developed feelings for him early on... Fell in-love. I often fantasized about how he was "the one" for me. Alas, Friti was married at the time. So my feelings remained something I would not speak, nor admit to.
Our bond quickly grew. We spent nearly all day and everyday together. Spoke of intimate things. Spent days doing more couple like things than we cared to admit then. Friti was the only one I felt I could just trust blindly. My feelings grew stronger and stronger every passing day. He too was showing signs, that i don't think he realized at all, that he was falling in love with me. And who am I to tell a married man that he's falling in love with me?
Everything was "Friti this" or Friti that" with me. With whomever I was with. Our friends could see it... That Friti and I would end up a couple. I had felt it earlier, but ruled it ridiculous, seeing as he was married.
In September 2009 we began a relationship, that we would not call anything other than a closer friendship... As I allowed Friti to sort out his feelings. I knew he "thought" he was in love with me. But he would say he didn't know if it was in love or in lust. I gave him time to figure it out.
In October 2009 we officially became a couple.
Now before you go and think "OMG, She stole someones husband!"
I will tell you this: NO, I did not. A good marriage can not be broken up.
Friti and his ex-wife were NOT happy together. It was pretty obvious now that I look back at it. But I didn't see it then, Until Friti told me. He was not happy with her. And she not happy with him. They tried marriage counseling, but it did no good. And they agreed together to Divorce.
They began the divorce process, and she moved out. She was very angry with me at first. Who could blame her? But I will have you know. Friti, his ex-wife, and I remain to be friends. She is now extremely happy and involved with a new man. She has told me she feels like a teenager again. And it is easy to see... The divorce(which was final in April 2010) was good for them both.
Which is another thing. In March 2010 I went to the Netherlands. And spent the happiest 3 months of my life. i met his ex-wife face to face. Who always greeted me with a big hug! but any way...
To my disbelief Friti continued to wear his wedding ring until the Divorce was final. I was very unhappy about it. And loath that ring. It was a constant reminder that he was not completely mine yet. But, as soon as he was notified that the divorce was final, he removed the ring.
In fact. I had passed out on the couch, and he took the ring off and left it next to me, where I could see it as soon as i woke up. I was over joyed! Can you blame me?
Anyway, it became apparent that I would have to return to the States. I practically begged Friti to come back to the States with me, and we could get married... This is when we officially became engaged, but believe it or not, we did not realize this until recently. LOL
Well, we did not do our research properly, and because of this, once Stateside, Friti was sent back. Though we didn't get told this until much later. We were advised to do as we are doing now.
These leads me to now.....
Though we are experiencing hard feelings toward Homeland Security and nervousness of failure. We have begun the process of getting him here to the US.
We are looking to the end of the summer this year when we will finally be able to be together again.
In the mean time. I am very happy with Friti. I love him so so so so much. We do have minor problems sometimes... Usually due to miss-communication. But we never fight! We talk and we sort things out... We make apologies, when apologies are needed. And 5 minutes later... It's like nothing ever happened. Our only real issues are of the sexual manner, but that is a story for another time.
I must say. Friti is the man of my dreams. And I am looking forward to the rest of my life with him. Be it here, the Netherlands, Japan, the UK. Wherever! As long as we are together.
Now that I have reflected back on my relationship with Friti, I will end this post.
((To Friti, who I know will sneak a peek: Love you muchly.)
With love,
Hotaru