Leaving on a jet plane
I think I'm going to leave my boyfriend. It's not even the distance that's the problem. Texting and skype and seeing each other once a month has been enough. He just isn't who I thought he was and I don't think I'll ever be happy in the long run
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i know this is a hard decision and can be painful, but I fully support you in this decision.
I was so glad to see you, and see that you've kept all those open minded, adventure loving good qualities that i always thought were so great about you. its not that i didn't like aaron, or anything like that, but i definitely got the vibe that he was conservative (i mentioned mandy being a radical feminist and he made the craziest face!), very different than you, and had a lack of understanding of your values. i only hoped that that wasn't something that caused you to change the way you felt about things that were important to you in order to be with him.
Some people can love each other and get past having different political feelings, so I didn't feel the need to say anything about it.
But mentioning that he doesn't understand your relationship to your family, or won't compromise on doing the things you love, and doesn't understand your relationship/understanding of gay people (especially when your sister is queer in her own way) can (and i think should) be a deal breaker.
good for you for recognizing these things and putting yourself first in this situation, thats a big deal! something i often fail to do when i'm in unhappy relationships.
if you want to talk or anything, you definitely know how to find me.
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It means a lot to me that you support my decision. In reality, you are the only person who has seen us together.
I definitely haven't changed the way I feel about the things that are important to me. I mostly feel like I can't voice my opinions.
I knew from the beginning that we were going to be different and I really thought that we'd be able to work through it. He wasn't so pushy at the beginning but every new relationship is good in the beginning.
He hasn't met my parents yet. He met Danielle and her bf at a Paramore and Tegan and Sara concert. But that was before we were even officially together and he didn't really say much to them. I'm terrified for him to meet my family. Not that I think my family has to like my boyfriend but it's comforting when they do. And I know they won't like him and he won't like them. I'm supposed to meet his parents Thanksgiving weekend and I really don't want to. He's planning on staying with me that weekend and I'm supposed to take him to the airport.
I feel like it is most likely going to end I just don't know if I should give it a little more time to see if we can make it work or get out while I still can.
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