How to build a friendship
In all my close friendships words are the bricks I used to build bridges. To know someone I need to hear her and to feel know I need to be heard by her. The process of knowing and loving another person happens, for me, through conversation. I reveal something to help my friend understand me, she responds in a way that assures me she values that revelation and then she adds something to help me understand her. This back and forth is repeated again and again as we go deeper into each other's hearts, minds, pasts, and dreams. Eventually a friendship is built, a solid sheltering structure that exists in the space between us, a space outside of ourselves that we can climb deep into. There is her, there is me, and then there is our friendship, this bridge we've built together.
- Glennon Doyle, Love Warrior