It is a bad sign that I now itemize my life?
School: Community college is much, much easier than Harvard, who would have known right? So I’m taking Anatomy and Physiology this summer and as the Harvard Extension class didn’t have a lab and thus wouldn’t count for nursing school, Cynthia and I both enrolled in Bunk Hill Community College for a summer course. The work load is much lower than expected, which is a nice break for the summer, but does present some motivation issues, i.e. it’s hard to motivate myself to do the little work that’s required. The class should be fine though, and I’m glad that the course is manageable because my final semester of post bac classes will be entirely at bunker hill because Harvard Extension doesn’t offer the courses and all the other universities charge way too much for them, so my last semester pre-grad school should be much easier than expected.
Engagement Party: Party planning is going well. Tuan brought me to Jacobson’s which is a whole sale dealer for floral supplies (everything but the flowers) in the Boston flower market. We picked up some nice class containers and floating candles for table decorations and I noted that while some stuff was priced close to retail, certain vases and such were much, much cheaper, particularly some tall glass wear good for formal decorations and Manzanita branches which I wanted for the wedding ($8 instead of the usual $12-$15). Other that that I’ve gotten a really positive response from friends, with about 30 rsvp yes’s. So put that together with 20 of my family and 20-30 of Tuan’s family and it should be a big event. The only major thing I’m worried about at this point is that Tuan parents are insisting that everyone on their end dress up (even putting Tuan’s 19 month old nephew in a suit)… which considering this party will be outside under a tent in August near a lake with no AC for miles (it’s just not common in NH) seems like a bad idea. Oh well all I can try to do is warn them right?
Wedding stuffs: Due to a major accounting error Tuan’s folks may end up owing the government about $27,000… which would be our wedding money and them some… so I considered postponing the wedding but Tuan and his family were really against it, so it looks like Tuan’s sister may end up loaning the money to her folks to pay for the wedding. She certainly has the money, due to some very intense years of being a high up marketing type person for Gillette she’s rather comfortable financially but it weirds me out a little. I’m much more comfortable dealing with her as a friend in the family verses a financier but neither Tuan nor her seem to have any problem with the arrangement. I think after the wedding we might thank her and her husband with a short weekend trip to Vegas, which was supposed to be a surprise but Tuan of course forgot and told her about it immediately. Doh >_____<
The other thing I’m dealing with is if you remember due to some issues with the jeweler neither Tuan nor I got any say on the engagement ring, basically his mom picked out something completely different (round vs, square, about half the carat weight, a very different setting etc). I just assumed I would get over it, but as Tuan neither picked the ring nor gave it to me, I’ve had a really hard time warming up to it, it’s definitely not a ring I would ever pick and has all the wrong associations. Tuan seems very unwilling to go back to his mom and ask her to trade it for something else, which is in many ways fair as we should have done that when we first saw it. Neither Tuan nor I were crazy about the ring but at that point we had been talking about getting engaged for over a year and just wanted to get it over with, thus we took it. But now I have this weird thing where I like *every* other ring I see more, which is completely illogical. I also end up not wearing it about 1/3 of the time because instead of reminding me of Tuan it reminds me of parent drama, which I have had way too much of. But when I don’t wear it I worry people will think Tuan and I are having issues. So I’m trying to decide whether I should just get the *F* over it and force myself to get used to it or to buy a small simple silver band and wear that instead, keeping the one we have until we’re in a better position to gather the extra cash required to trade in the ring for something closer to the one we originally picked out. We of course wouldn’t be in a position to do any real ring trading until after grad school, which would be in about 4 years, which is a long time to wear a ring that upsets me, regardless of whether that is a normal/mature/logical response, which I have a feeling it’s not.
Post Wedding: Does anyone have good honeymoon locations that are tolerable in August (wedding date is currently Aug 7th) and somewhat affordable? Right now Canada or Europe seem like good options, I’ve been to Quebec, France and England, and I’d like something a little more adventurous is possible.
Engagement Party: Party planning is going well. Tuan brought me to Jacobson’s which is a whole sale dealer for floral supplies (everything but the flowers) in the Boston flower market. We picked up some nice class containers and floating candles for table decorations and I noted that while some stuff was priced close to retail, certain vases and such were much, much cheaper, particularly some tall glass wear good for formal decorations and Manzanita branches which I wanted for the wedding ($8 instead of the usual $12-$15). Other that that I’ve gotten a really positive response from friends, with about 30 rsvp yes’s. So put that together with 20 of my family and 20-30 of Tuan’s family and it should be a big event. The only major thing I’m worried about at this point is that Tuan parents are insisting that everyone on their end dress up (even putting Tuan’s 19 month old nephew in a suit)… which considering this party will be outside under a tent in August near a lake with no AC for miles (it’s just not common in NH) seems like a bad idea. Oh well all I can try to do is warn them right?
Wedding stuffs: Due to a major accounting error Tuan’s folks may end up owing the government about $27,000… which would be our wedding money and them some… so I considered postponing the wedding but Tuan and his family were really against it, so it looks like Tuan’s sister may end up loaning the money to her folks to pay for the wedding. She certainly has the money, due to some very intense years of being a high up marketing type person for Gillette she’s rather comfortable financially but it weirds me out a little. I’m much more comfortable dealing with her as a friend in the family verses a financier but neither Tuan nor her seem to have any problem with the arrangement. I think after the wedding we might thank her and her husband with a short weekend trip to Vegas, which was supposed to be a surprise but Tuan of course forgot and told her about it immediately. Doh >_____<
The other thing I’m dealing with is if you remember due to some issues with the jeweler neither Tuan nor I got any say on the engagement ring, basically his mom picked out something completely different (round vs, square, about half the carat weight, a very different setting etc). I just assumed I would get over it, but as Tuan neither picked the ring nor gave it to me, I’ve had a really hard time warming up to it, it’s definitely not a ring I would ever pick and has all the wrong associations. Tuan seems very unwilling to go back to his mom and ask her to trade it for something else, which is in many ways fair as we should have done that when we first saw it. Neither Tuan nor I were crazy about the ring but at that point we had been talking about getting engaged for over a year and just wanted to get it over with, thus we took it. But now I have this weird thing where I like *every* other ring I see more, which is completely illogical. I also end up not wearing it about 1/3 of the time because instead of reminding me of Tuan it reminds me of parent drama, which I have had way too much of. But when I don’t wear it I worry people will think Tuan and I are having issues. So I’m trying to decide whether I should just get the *F* over it and force myself to get used to it or to buy a small simple silver band and wear that instead, keeping the one we have until we’re in a better position to gather the extra cash required to trade in the ring for something closer to the one we originally picked out. We of course wouldn’t be in a position to do any real ring trading until after grad school, which would be in about 4 years, which is a long time to wear a ring that upsets me, regardless of whether that is a normal/mature/logical response, which I have a feeling it’s not.
Post Wedding: Does anyone have good honeymoon locations that are tolerable in August (wedding date is currently Aug 7th) and somewhat affordable? Right now Canada or Europe seem like good options, I’ve been to Quebec, France and England, and I’d like something a little more adventurous is possible.