conversation with ruth about mom
Ruth Adkins: you don't have to keep healing your mom
Ruth Adkins: through others
Ruth Adkins: actually your mom has always been happy on the Other Side
Ruth Adkins: she's ok
Ruth Adkins: she's busy with you guys though
Stan Cheung: I bet
Stan Cheung: the girls are a handful
Ruth Adkins: yeah actually they're handling her loss better in some ways than you overall...although they were also younger when she died.
Ruth Adkins: so again that makes sense
Stan Cheung: well you know I get haunted by that dream that I had a few month before she died
Stan Cheung: The one where we were old and I had my kids running around her. She had salt and pepper hair. Telling the kids that they have to be careful. But it was in a more americanized accent.
Stan Cheung: we were just sitting across from each other on ottomans in front of the fireplace
Stan Cheung: I just commented on how it's great the kids can see their grandmother. And how happy they are to come and visit
Stan Cheung: I might have been forty
Stan Cheung: dressed up really nice like in a suit and all.
Stan Cheung: the room looked like a old study in in a victorian home.
Stan Cheung: I can still see the little bit's or wrinkle on her slightly aged face. still young by most standards
Stan Cheung: sometimes I wish she was around so I can replay that dream in real life.
Ruth Adkins: she is around though...I think that will be from the Other Side
Ruth Adkins: she's always around
Stan Cheung: I know
Ruth Adkins: I thanked her for her son before I left
Ruth Adkins: I cried quite a bit
Stan Cheung: I physically miss her. I\
Stan Cheung: I remember when Angie was over she kicked the blankets off of her feet. I automaticly walked up to her and tucked them back in. It reminded me of mom for a minute. I was tempted to kiss her on the forehead. But you know about my infamous loud kisses. it would have woke her up
Stan Cheung: but doing a blanket tuck was how my mom expressed love. We never really say it out loud too much in the house hold. It's not a very asian thing to do. But we express it in actions. The little stuff\
Ruth Adkins: it's so intense living in he physical we foret that it's more natural not ot be in the physical
Ruth Adkins: yes, you have alot of yourt mom in you
Stan Cheung: the stuff between actions is what we use to express feelings
Ruth Adkins: I'm a little too emotional for an Asian mindset
Ruth Adkins: through others
Ruth Adkins: actually your mom has always been happy on the Other Side
Ruth Adkins: she's ok
Ruth Adkins: she's busy with you guys though
Stan Cheung: I bet
Stan Cheung: the girls are a handful
Ruth Adkins: yeah actually they're handling her loss better in some ways than you overall...although they were also younger when she died.
Ruth Adkins: so again that makes sense
Stan Cheung: well you know I get haunted by that dream that I had a few month before she died
Stan Cheung: The one where we were old and I had my kids running around her. She had salt and pepper hair. Telling the kids that they have to be careful. But it was in a more americanized accent.
Stan Cheung: we were just sitting across from each other on ottomans in front of the fireplace
Stan Cheung: I just commented on how it's great the kids can see their grandmother. And how happy they are to come and visit
Stan Cheung: I might have been forty
Stan Cheung: dressed up really nice like in a suit and all.
Stan Cheung: the room looked like a old study in in a victorian home.
Stan Cheung: I can still see the little bit's or wrinkle on her slightly aged face. still young by most standards
Stan Cheung: sometimes I wish she was around so I can replay that dream in real life.
Ruth Adkins: she is around though...I think that will be from the Other Side
Ruth Adkins: she's always around
Stan Cheung: I know
Ruth Adkins: I thanked her for her son before I left
Ruth Adkins: I cried quite a bit
Stan Cheung: I physically miss her. I\
Stan Cheung: I remember when Angie was over she kicked the blankets off of her feet. I automaticly walked up to her and tucked them back in. It reminded me of mom for a minute. I was tempted to kiss her on the forehead. But you know about my infamous loud kisses. it would have woke her up
Stan Cheung: but doing a blanket tuck was how my mom expressed love. We never really say it out loud too much in the house hold. It's not a very asian thing to do. But we express it in actions. The little stuff\
Ruth Adkins: it's so intense living in he physical we foret that it's more natural not ot be in the physical
Ruth Adkins: yes, you have alot of yourt mom in you
Stan Cheung: the stuff between actions is what we use to express feelings
Ruth Adkins: I'm a little too emotional for an Asian mindset