Yet another long-overdue post

[holladaymensch]

I was so looking forward to having today off, and then what do I do? I oversleep and wake up at 2:30. Argh! I should've set an alarm. Oh well, it's nasty and rainy outside anyhow. Maybe I'll go swim laps later and make myself feel semi-productive

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[rearchetyped]

"I want to start dating again because I've found someone I'm genuinely interested in, not because I'm starting to feel self conscious about being single."

Spot on. Even though things ended kind of abruptly, my latest was the healthiest dating relationship I've ever been in, and I think it had a lot to do with being satisfied with being single before meeting her. I think that going into previous relationships with the feeling that I NEEDED to date led to a mindset of "ohgodohgodohgod I hope I don't screw this up" which, predictably, didn't lead to the most optimal experiences. This time it was more like "I like you and I can just relax and enjoy it, because if it doesn't work out, I know I can be content and happy back at square one."

"Don't even get me started on the fact that my life is set up in such a way that it's virtually impossible to meet new people of the male persuasion"

I can empathize somewhat. I'm around plenty of women on a daily basis, but they're all law school women, and I've declared those verboten for many reasons. Of course, this makes it hard to meet women when most of your day and social life revolve around law school.

[holladaymensch]

Thanks, Chris. You're definitely right. For the most part, I am content being single. Just every once in a while I falter. And, you know, Valentine's day is the perfect time to question your worth as a person. :P

I was sorry to read about your situation; everything seemed like it was going so well! I, too, am betting that she just freaked out. But I think your instincts are great. Just go one day at a time, and see how things play out.