I'm married and this is what it means to me
2 days before my wedding, I was at a pub in Canmore, Alberta with nearly all of the guests for the wedding and was talking with my friend JP, we go back many years, all the way to the 90's! We were talking about how amazing and awe-inspiring it was to see the Rockies for the first time back in 2006 in our 20's and now we look at them differently now.
We were talking about how when we were in our 20's we were in that state of discovery and trying to find our place in the world and our identity and then once that is figured out its really about planning how we want to spend the rest of our lives and die.
It sounds rather bleak, but its also true, we are around for a limited amount of time might as well appreciate that fact and do the best we can with the finite time we have left before its gone. I disagree with the mountain metaphor, mountains are still awe-inspiring and cool, but he has a point.
I didn't have much time to reflect about interesting things like that in the past 5 months, since planning a wedding is complicated and busy, even if its only for 47 people. I can see why people have a wedding planner now.
I thought about this as I was driving off to have wedding photos with Tricia in the mountains and see her for the first time in a wedding dress. I was thinking about how lonely life was for a period of time when I lived in Vancovuer and was completing my Masters back in the mid 00's. Waiting for the bus alone in the rain, listening to something sad like Elliott Smith was a common image of that time before I met Tricia. I didn't think of that somewhat sad era for a really long period of time. How I was looking for someone, but haven't met her yet.
It made me happy that memory was in the distant past and I have been with Tricia for 7 years and that we were getting married and all my close family and friends were there for that special moment. It was a lovely ceremony and a really fun weekend. Weddings are important milestones to think about the significance of love and relationships and what it means. I've always supported equal-marriage, but now I see an even greater importance to why people have fought for so long on this issue.
If JP is right, I think I've figured out myself. I'm a dedicated civil servant, I care about the future of this planet and try to do my part to make it a better place, I like politics, hiking in mountains, and plan to spend the rest of my life with Tricia until I'm dead since I found my true love.
I've planned out ideally how I would like to live the rest of my life, and I really look forward to living it day by day. Starting with our honeymoon in India. Should be epic. If I could travel back in time, I would tell 2005 Brian that everything is going to work out fine.
We were talking about how when we were in our 20's we were in that state of discovery and trying to find our place in the world and our identity and then once that is figured out its really about planning how we want to spend the rest of our lives and die.
It sounds rather bleak, but its also true, we are around for a limited amount of time might as well appreciate that fact and do the best we can with the finite time we have left before its gone. I disagree with the mountain metaphor, mountains are still awe-inspiring and cool, but he has a point.
I didn't have much time to reflect about interesting things like that in the past 5 months, since planning a wedding is complicated and busy, even if its only for 47 people. I can see why people have a wedding planner now.
I thought about this as I was driving off to have wedding photos with Tricia in the mountains and see her for the first time in a wedding dress. I was thinking about how lonely life was for a period of time when I lived in Vancovuer and was completing my Masters back in the mid 00's. Waiting for the bus alone in the rain, listening to something sad like Elliott Smith was a common image of that time before I met Tricia. I didn't think of that somewhat sad era for a really long period of time. How I was looking for someone, but haven't met her yet.
It made me happy that memory was in the distant past and I have been with Tricia for 7 years and that we were getting married and all my close family and friends were there for that special moment. It was a lovely ceremony and a really fun weekend. Weddings are important milestones to think about the significance of love and relationships and what it means. I've always supported equal-marriage, but now I see an even greater importance to why people have fought for so long on this issue.
If JP is right, I think I've figured out myself. I'm a dedicated civil servant, I care about the future of this planet and try to do my part to make it a better place, I like politics, hiking in mountains, and plan to spend the rest of my life with Tricia until I'm dead since I found my true love.
I've planned out ideally how I would like to live the rest of my life, and I really look forward to living it day by day. Starting with our honeymoon in India. Should be epic. If I could travel back in time, I would tell 2005 Brian that everything is going to work out fine.